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Rachael Ray on her marriage: We don’t take it to heart when one person has to vent

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Yesterday, we heard how Kelly Ripa and Mark Consuelo solve all their issues with sex. Now let’s discuss Rachel Ray and husband John Cusimano’s approach to marriage: venting. Rachel and John have been married for 16 years. They don’t have kids, but they do have dogs. They have also had a heck of a year. When the pandemic hit, Rachel decided to broadcast her show from their home, which up until that point had been off limits to the public. So their safe space quickly became public space. Not only that, John took on the role of helping Rachel produce the show, something he did not enjoy nor was he particularly gifted at. And then tragedy struck when their home burned to the ground, and they narrowly escaped. Rachel said their secret to getting through all that together is by not take it too personally when the other is letting off a little steam.

Rachael Ray and her husband, John Cusimano, marked their 16th wedding anniversary this month — a milestone for any couple, but especially worth celebrating considering all the life difficulties thrown towards the couple this year.

In May of that year, the couple’s cherished 15-year-old pit bull, Isaboo, died. Then last August, their home — the one Ray had designed from scratch 15 years earlier and long tried to protect from the public — completely burned to the ground, the result of a fire ember that came out of the home’s chimney and landed on the roof.

It took them a full year to rebuild. Throughout it, and all of the year’s other obstacles, Ray and Cusimano, 53, remained a united force to get to the other side.

“We have volatile personalities but we’re both very practical. too,” she says. “That’s the lawyer side of him and the domestic side of me. We’re like, ‘These are the things that must be accomplished today. And we will get to this only by doing what work is necessary.’”

“John and I didn’t meet until later in life, and didn’t get married until we were almost 40,” Ray says. “We knew who we were. We’ve always been that way, for 20 years. We don’t take it too much to heart when one person just has to vent or blow up. We’re very good at being quiet also, with each other. We don’t look for there to be constant chatter. And we’re very good with giving each other space to work on our passions. We’re kind of autonomous and I think, in many ways, we were more uniquely prepared for this pandemic.”

“When you’re left at home alone for too long, you start to lose a little perspective. You can get tunnel vision and think, ‘Everything’s revolving around us and our little problems.’ But there are so much worse positions we could be in,” Ray says. “I’m alive. I have a roof over my head. I have a job. There are people all over the food industry who have suffered and don’t know what to do. Not to mention the millions of people who have died.”

“At the end of the day, John and I, we always come back to grateful. Some days are different than others, but we try to say, ‘Okay, here’s the new plan,’ even when we get down,” Ray continues — joking, “We’re like Moonstruck over here. We just keep saying, ‘Stop your whining and snap out of it.’ “

[From People]

I can follow this advice better than letting sex solve my problems. Obviously, it’s not a carte blanche. Letting off steam shouldn’t become a personal attack. But sometimes everything does build to a head, and it feels good to just vent about it. And it feels so good to be heard. Many couples can decipher when their partner is mad at them or at the world in general. The pandemic was really hard on people used to their own space and schedules like Rachel and John. Being around the same person/people for that length of time took its toll, no matter how much you loved them or how well you lived together. I resorted back to my tricks when my kids were toddlers and stayed in the bathroom for longer than I needed. I needed a space no one could get to me. So I get where Rachel is coming from on this.

And the hits just keep coming for Rachel and John. They’ve just rebuilt their home upstate. It took a full year. Thank goodness it’s finally done, though, because their apartment in New York City was wiped out by Hurricane Ida. Rachel said the floodwaters came in from everywhere and the apartment, “just literally melted, like in Wicked.” They waited a full week for the overworked remediation team to come and assess the damage. When they finally got there, they burst a water pipe and re-flooded the whole building. Rachel chose, once again, to remind herself how many advantages she has and how much worse others have it. She has a new book coming out on October 26th called This Must Be the Place. If it has any secrets on how to bottle Rachel’s positivity when the cards are down, I’ll buy a dozen copies.

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Kelly Ripa says Mark Consuelos solves all problems with ‘love and sexy time’

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When speaking of celebrity couples who overshare, Kelly Ripa and Mark Consuelos should never be left out of the conversation. Whether it’s thirst trap photos or personal information they thrive off giving TMI about their marriage. Mark filled in for Ryan Seacrest on Monday’s episode of Live With Kelly and Ryan. During the show, they discussed the second episode of Scene form a Marriage, which was tortuous. Without spoiling anything, it was full of strife that asked the viewer to consider how they would react if they were in either of the characters’ shoes. Which is what Kelly and Mark were doing when Kelly told her audience and viewers that things would never have gotten to that point for them because Mark solves every conflict with sex. Excuse me, “sexy time.”

Kelly Ripa and Mark Consuelos are sharing their tips for a long — and happy — romance.

The couple, who have been married since 1996, opened up about their relationship during Monday’s episode of Live With Kelly and Ryan, where Mark, 50, was filling in for Ryan Seacrest as guest co-host.

While discussing the new HBO series Scenes from a Marriage, Ripa, 50, said her love life with Mark is much different from what the characters in the miniseries — which follows a couple struggling to keep their relationship intact — experience.

“I was like, none of this would ever be happening in the Mark Consuelos household, because he would have nipped all of this in the bud immediately,” Ripa said, referring to the second episode of Scenes from a Marriage.

While series stars Jessica Chastain and Oscar Isaac deal with tension and conflict in their fictional marriage, Ripa said she and her husband are quick to resolve any issues that come their way.

“He would have been like, ‘Oh, you’re upset? I know how to take care of that. Oh, you don’t feel good about something? I’ll take care of that. Oh, you’re feeling like maybe you’re overworked? I got you. I know what you need,’ ” Ripa explained.

Spilling more details to the audience, Ripa added, “Because everything for Mark is settled with, everything is settled with —” before her husband cut in to add, “Love.”

Ripa corrected him, telling viewers, “Love and sexy time.”


While Mark was quick to clarify that “not everything” can be solved that way, Ripa cheekily added, “Just about almost everything.”

[From People]

I know Kelly says this kind of stuff to get us talking about it. Few marriages would thrive if a partner was silenced with sex every time a conflict arose, so I’m sure this is typical Kelly exaggeration. But it was curious to see Mark cut her off. He knew what she was saying was going to make him look bad. Hopefully it was just a misguided joke. And I say this as a person who finds Mark incredibly hot. Having “sexy time” with him is something I have entertained, but not at the sacrifice of my feelings when I’m vulnerable. Note that Kelly didn’t say “we solve our problems” that way, but that it was “Mark Consuelos’” method. I guess that was part of only having “room for one man” in their relationship. But, they have 25 years together and they still love to work together so however they resolve their issues is working for them. And their oldest son, Michael, said their marriage has set the bar for him in many ways. He told ET, “They’re great, not just in like a relationship sense, but they’re great role models. I try to conduct myself the way I think they would,” which is a pretty glowing endorsement.

I will criticize Kelly’s comments in the context of Scenes from a Marriage, though. *MILD SPOILER* I was so afraid they were going to resort to sexy time, it was the only thing I was relieved about in that whole episode. I feel like Kelly missed the whole point of what she watched if she felt her discussion was a good follow-up to episode two.

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Anna Faris explains why she eloped and didn’t have anyone at her wedding

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In July, we found out that Anna Faris and Michael Barrett had secretly married by eloping at courthouse in Washington. At the time, we didn’t know much else, except the ceremony took place on San Juan Island and that she sprung the news on her family only shortly before she told her podcast listeners. Over the weekend, the couple was making their way through LAX when some paps asked why they’d decided to elope. Anna said since they’re a bit on in years, they didn’t feel they needed “the whole thing.”

Anna Faris is opening up about her recent elopement with husband Michael Barrett.

The “House Bunny” star, 44, was spotted at LAX airport over the weekend, and told paps that she and Barrett, 51, wed at a private courthouse ceremony on their own because “with a little bit of age, you don’t need the whole thing.”

When asked if anyone else attended the couple’s nuptials, Faris responded, “It was just us.” She also confirmed it was her decision to elope.

[From Page Six]

I’ll say up front, as I have many times before, I always think a wedding should be whatever the bride and groom want. If a pair of thrice-married septuagenarians want to blow the doors off with a cathedral length train and 15 attendants, that’s their day. I have opinions on a couple making outrageous demands on the bridal party or guests/family, but not how they want to celebrate. So my speculation about why Anna and Michael eloped is just speculation, I’m sure they did exactly what they wanted for their wedding and I’m all for it. Age may have been a factor. I know my wedding would’ve been very different if I’d married 10 years earlier than I did. But it was also Anna’s third marriage and Michael’s second. I know if I ever do it again, it would be vastly different because I already have the experience. When Anna’s ex, Chris Pratt, married Katherine Schwarzenegger, it was her first wedding. So I’m sure she wanted a big wedding and he wanted her to have it. Plus, it sounds like Anna has been doing a lot of introspection about her former relationships, so maybe she wanted all their focus to be on their vows without any of the distractions a big wedding can have. Honestly, not worrying about the guestlist is worth the elopement alone.

And, as CB pointed out, during the pandemic, a small, intimate ceremony is a really smart choice.

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John Corbett reveals that he and Bo Derek got secretly married in December

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John Corbett called in to The Talk and chatted with the newly announced Talk host Jerry O’Connell. John and Jerry are friends, apparently. But even Jerry didn’t get an invite to John’s super-secret Christmas wedding to Bo Derek. That’s right, John and Bo, who have been together for nearly 20 years, decided to get married last Christmas, and John announced it for the first time publicly during his interview on The Talk. Jerry said he’d noticed John’s ring but didn’t want to say anything on television.

John Corbett tends to be super private when it comes to his personal life, including his longtime relationship with Bo Derek, but on Tuesday, he made a big revelation during a virtual appearance on The Talk: He and Derek wed in 2020.

The former Sex and the City star broke the news casually. He mentioned that he’d spoken to co-host Jerry O’Connell for a couple of hours the other day. But there was something he’d left out.

“Jerry, I can’t believe that I forgot to tell ya that, around Christmastime, we got married!” Corbett said. “Bo and I got married.”

O’Connell had been wondering if something was up with Corbett, because of a new piece of jewelry he was sporting.

“I noticed your ring, and I was gonna say something, but not on live television,” O’Connell said. “But wow! Congratulations!”

Corbett noted that he and Derek, who met on a blind date in 2002, are “pretty private,” although they’d already told their friends and family members.

“This is the first time either one of us has said anything publicly about it because, really, we haven’t had an opportunity,” Corbett said, “so you’re my buddy, and now I guess I’m telling, you know, all of America or the world. And, yeah, after 20 years we decided to get married. We didn’t want 2020 to be that thing that everybody looks back at and hated. We thought, ‘Well, let’s get one nice thing out of it,’ so we did it around Christmas.”

[From Yahoo via Seriously OMG!]

I’m pretty surprised by this news, to be honest. I thought John and Bo were lifers, but I never thought they’d marry. They were both so very comfortable not being married. I thought they felt their relationship was more successful because they didn’t have the structure of marriage hanging over them. I also got the feeling that John Derek was more Svengali than Bo was willing to admit publicly, so she appreciated John C being committed without the legal confinement.

However, as far as reasons go, trying to bring a point of joy to a tragic year is a sweet one. They’ve always enjoyed their relationship on their own terms, this is just another example of that. We will probably have to fill in most of the details ourselves. Both Bo and John tend to keep their relationship cards close to their vests. Hopefully this decision will be a better one than John agreeing to bring Aidan back to the Sex and the City reboot.

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Heidi Klum on renewing her vows to Seal every year: ‘You can’t say I didn’t try’

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Heidi Klum was married to her second husband, Seal, for about eight years. Their wedding ceremony at a resort in Costa Careyes Mexico was attended by Heidi, Seal and Heidi’s daughter, Leni, who Seal later adopted. On each anniversary following, they renewed their vows at same resort. The ceremonies grew to include their future children and a guest list that expanded upwards of 50 people. Heidi themed the ceremonies. In 2009, travel to Mexico was restricted due to the H1N1 virus, so the couple hosted their annual renewal at their home in L.A. with a “White Trash” theme. At that point, I many people began to question the point of the renewal, as it seemed they were more an excuse for a party than a true reaffirmation of vows. But Heidi just gave an interview to the Sunday Times in which she said that she was, in fact, trying to preserve their love with each ceremony. Obviously, they didn’t work. The Times article is behind a paywall, but Yahoo has an excerpt.

Officially, Heidi Klum has been married three times: to hairdresser Ric Pipino, then singer Seal, then her current husband, Tokio Hotel rocker Tom Kaulitz. During her marriage to Seal, however, the German supermodel and the “Kiss From a Rose” singer repeatedly renewed their marriage vows each year — but ultimately split in 2012.

“I think I got married eight times to Seal,” Klum, 48, now says of the former couple’s multiple trips to the altar in a new interview with the Sunday Times. “I thought it would be kind of, like, fun. I thought it would be a fest of love. But you know, that doesn’t work either. I tried, you can’t say I didn’t try!”

She admits that over time she began to lose faith in the repeat ceremonies: “Like, ‘This is really not working.’ But I tried.”

Seal, 58, has also addressed the vow renewals, telling Andy Cohen in 2015 that “that was my ex-wife’s idea, to be honest.“

Noting that he “disliked” that the ceremonies were publicized, he added, “It kind of turned into a little bit of a circus, which I wasn’t terribly fond of because, by default, I’m quite a private person.”

[From Yahoo!]

I don’t have an opinion on vow renewals in general. I feel that, like wedding ceremonies, it has to be what they couple wants. I’d have one if my vows were broken and we decided to give it another shot. But that’s how I feel about it right now (I could always change my mind, too). Plenty of couples view them differently and that’s great. Celebrate your relationship however it works best for you. I admit that I got the impression that Heidi and Seal’s renewals were almost a habit after a while, like Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon. They didn’t seem to have any sentiment behind them, more fun than anything. So I was surprised to hear Heidi was actually trying to buoy her marriage with them. I wonder if that’s what was behind the themes, to incorporate traditions she found so beautiful she wanted them to bless her marriage in that way. I’d struggle with what her “White Trash” theme brought under that theory, however. But if Seal was, as he claims, against them, then they were doomed to fail from the start. If he told Heidi he didn’t want them public and she went public, that’s not cool of her. If he never told her that at the time, then he’s set her up to fail. Either way, these two were obviously not on the same page.

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David Harbour on how Lily Allen’s daughters inspired him to propose

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David Harbour appeared on Jimmy Kimmel Live to promote Stranger Things and the Black Widow movie. I guess Jimmy is back to desk and couch interviews now, things really are returning to how they once were. The first thing Jimmy did was congratulate David on getting married. David and Lily Allen surprised most of us by getting married in Las Vegas last September during the pandemic. They posted some pictures to their social media from their wedding, but beyond that, neither spoke much about any of it. However, on Kimmel, David opened up a bit. He said that he and Lily had actually gotten engaged before lockdown, but it was Lily’s daughters, Ethel and Marnie, who inspired him to make things official. David said he married Lily so her daughters would know what to call him.

David Harbour made it official with Lily Allen due, in part, to some accidental advice from the British singer’s two young children.

The Stranger Things star, 46, appeared on Jimmy Kimmel Live! Tuesday, where he spoke about how Allen’s daughters Marnie Rose, 8, and Ethel Mary, 9, whom she shares with ex Sam Cooper, played a role in the couple’s decision to wed in a low-key Las Vegas ceremony last September amid the coronavirus pandemic.

“We got engaged right before the pandemic. Then the pandemic hit and nothing was happening,” Harbour said of his plans with his partner, 36.

“We were riding around beginning of pandemic — she has two kids, these beautiful daughters, 8 and 9 — and we were riding bikes out in the country trying to figure out what we were gonna do for the next year or however long it was going to take. And the little one was riding along and she was going like, ‘David, dad, David, dad.’ Because the D got her confused,” he recalled. “And the older one got very upset with that, which I understand. She was like, ‘He’s not our dad! He’s not our dad!’ ”

Harbour continued: “And then younger one was like, ‘Well what is he? He’s kind of our dad.’ She’s like, ‘No he’s not, he’s our stepdad.’ And she goes, ‘What is he?’ And she goes, ‘He’s just some guy in our lives!’ ”

According to the Black Widow actor, that conversation confirmed it was time for him to take the next step.

“I was like, ‘I need to marry this woman,’ ” Harbour joked. “Because the emotional fallout … “

[From People]

If you watch the clip on Kimmel, it’s really funny. David is a great storyteller. But I kind of think there’s an element of truth here. David and Lily had a unique rollout to their relationship. It’s become obvious they aren’t doing it for anyone but themselves. Remember when they first took up, they were hanging all over each other in the streets? I really thought that was going to be their brand. But their honeymoon phase matured and we heard very little from them. They didn’t disappear, just kept to themselves mostly. David clearly became involved with Lily’s daughters, that was apparent on their social media, but he was respectful of their father, Sam Cooper. So I think when he heard Marnie call him “some guy in our lives,” it was funny, but he also wanted to prove to them he was in it for the long haul. If that message was more important than the bells and whistles of a big ceremony, why wait? Maybe David saw the chance to prove his dedication to Lily and the girls right then and there. And the wedding looks like a lot of fun. I’m still in love with Lily’s wedding look. I think everyone go the wedding they wanted.

David said both Marnie and Ethel still jokingly call him, “some guy in our lives.” I love it. It’s like a pre-teens way of keeping the new parent in line.

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Jemima Kirke Cut Her Hair and Undressed for StyleLikeU

The 31-year-old Girls star was filming the StyleLikeU’s video series, The What’s Underneath Project, when she discussed her seven-year marriage, admitting that she and ex husband Michael ‘couldn’t be more different’.

As part of the series, participants are asked to strip down to show that style is really about being comfortable in your own skin, and during the candid interview Jemima revealed the she real reason she cut her trademark long blond hair was because of troubles with Michael.

‘I cut my hair because I felt like my hair was really one of the only things that made me feel pretty,’ she explained. ‘I felt like my hair was my go-to trick. I really believed for a while that without it I would be boring.

‘I was having a terrible moment with my husband in our relationship and I was extremely hurt by him and extremely angry at him and so I was feeling self-destructive.’

Instead of doing something truly self-destructive, Jemima said she ended up just cutting her hair, and it was actually Michael who gave her an even shorter ‘do a couple weeks after their fight.

‘I said I wanted to go shorter and he said “I’ll do it” and he cut it. It was really nice,’ she added. ‘It was kind of romantic. It’s nice to have someone you love cut your hair.’

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