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Kristen Bell: Parenting is like sports – you’re either winning or losing every minute

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I watched the new Kristen Bell movie Queenpins on Paramount Plus on Monday. The film itself was okay, but the cast was good. I love Kirby Howell-Baptiste and she co-stars, so that was worth it. Everyone was solid but I was surprised at Bebe Rexha. It was a small role, but she was really entertaining in it. It’s based on a true story about a rudderless woman who spent all her money trying to have a baby that she miscarried, then made extreme couponing her coping mechanism and turned it into a less-than-legal business for her and Kirby’s character. Kristen has two children and uses oversharing as her coping mechanism. Fortunately, all her businesses are on the up and up. When it comes to raising kids, Kristen said she doesn’t always get it right. She likened parenting to sports and said she’s, “either winning or losing every minute of the day.”

Kristen Bell is at a point where she has to acknowledge when she’s been bested by her own children.

The 41-year-old The Good Place alum hosts Momsplaining With Kristen Bell, the Daytime Emmy-nominated digital series available weekly on Ellen DeGeneres’ content platform Bubble. As seen in preview footage exclusive to E! News from the Wednesday, Oct. 6 episode, Kristen discussed moments when she and husband Dax Shepard have been outwitted by daughters Lincoln, 8, and Delta, 6.

“Parenting is a lot like sports—you’re either winning or losing every minute of the day,” Kristen quipped in the clip. “Mostly losing, but that’s what makes the winning so sweet, and fleeting. Being a parent is just weird, you know? And it helps to know you’re not alone. I suggest talking to someone—even if no one is there.”

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I don’t disagree with Kristen on this. I’m not sure I would use the sports analogy, though. I feel like we’re attorneys arguing the same case. But somehow the kids are the opposing counsel, the judge and jury. Maybe when that’s because mine are teens. Kristen’s girls are still under 10 and there was a lot more running around at that age, so the sports thing works. But the losing part feels the same, regardless. And you never figure out how someone with a fraction of your age and experience bests you – every time. However, what Kristen said about winning is very true. In those moments when you feel like you got it right, it is so, so sweet. And, unfortunately, fleeting, as she said. So savor the moment while you have it.

I think Kristen was kidding about talking to yourself, but I do it all the time. I swear it keeps me sane, even though it makes me look insane. Some emotions need to come out before I address an issue with whoemver has ticked me off. My coffee maker knows how to take it without getting its feelings hurt. So joke or not, that’s actually some of the best advice Kristen has ever given.

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Mandy Moore opens up about feeling ‘inadequate,’ ‘not good enough’ as a mom

Mandy Moore gave birth to her first baby this year. She and husband Taylor Goldsmith welcomed son August, whom they call Gus, last February. Like most new parents, Mandy had wanted to be a mom for a long time and was over the moon. And, also like most new parents, Mandy found the reality of being a new mom very different from the expectation of it. While speaking with Lansinoh’s IG Live, Mandy opened up about some raw feelings on parenting little Gus. One of the hardest ones is that she often feels inadequate as a mother to him. Yahoo has a lot more on Mandy’s comments.

Mandy Moore is opening up about the feelings of isolation she’s experienced since giving birth to son Gus in February, particularly as a new mom amid the pandemic.

“I had these preconceived notions of myself going into motherhood,” Moore told Ream. “Obviously I knew it was going to be challenging, but I thought, ‘Oh, I maybe have this sort of naturally maternal side,’ whatever the heck that means. But I guess I just didn’t really recognize the worries, the fears, the sense of responsibility that is so ever-present moving forward once you become a mom.”

“I guess when I imagined motherhood, I sort of imagined like, oh, you find community… and you go to Mommy-and-Me classes and baby classes,” she said. “And I’m sure that’s a reality for some people in different parts of the country, but I don’t know if it’s something that I would feel necessarily the most comfortable with at this point in time, just considering what we’re kind of living through. And so it’s having to reframe these expectations that you’ve had about what it’s like to be a mom and what it’s like to connect with people. The isolation is something that’s really hit me that I wasn’t necessarily expecting.”

Moore added that she’s also struggled to maintain her friendships, because “I personally don’t have a ton of friends who have babies.” Describing herself as shy by nature, she said that it’s been “hard to find community” since becoming a mother.

The former teen star also opened up about other challenges she’s faced as a mom, including trying to “stay connected to myself and my identity outside of just being a mom.” She described leaving Gus at home for the first time last week to go hiking in the mountains with two fellow moms, noting that “physically I needed to do something for myself; I needed to tap into something that I was passionate about before he was here.” During the trip, however, she grappled with guilt at being away while feeling physically overwhelmed by the hike.

Moore also spoke about feeling “inadequate” sometimes as a mom. She shared that the attention she received during the pregnancy left her feeling “on top of the world,” only to then be plunged into the depths of postpartum life.

“Everything shifts to the baby,” she explained. “The baby obviously should take priority, but moms should take priority right alongside [them]… At around three months [after giving birth], I was hit with this wave of just not feeling good enough. I think it coincided with the chaos and the energy of those early months and weeks starting to wane; our time with sort of extra support was coming to an end… It was really scary and it makes me emotional to think about now. I still feel like I’m in it, but I’m finding my footing.

She continued, “I think as his needs really started to continue to change… I just felt this rush of like, ‘I’m not good enough for him. I don’t know how to be his mom. I know how to feed him, but beyond that, am I suited for this?’ I just felt so ineffective, and I would look at my husband who just seemed to have a supernatural ability to take care of Gus. Like, he could make him smile. He could make him laugh. He would get on the floor and roll around with him. And I just felt like whatever I did it just wasn’t right, and I couldn’t get him to sleep and it made me feel horrible.”

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Believe me when I tell you that I could have given that interview. Every word of it, including the stuff I didn’t have room for (except for all the working on a successful TV show). I thought motherhood would envelope me like a mythical cloak. Instead, it was the greatest sense of failure I’d ever felt. I got emotional reading this and wish I could contact Mandy. I’d have her over for a real heart-to-heart. Especially because I remember covering her difficult pregnancy when she was so excited about becoming a mother. I know exactly what she means about the babies needing changing and it undermining her confidence. Kids change so much and so fast. You just get a rhythm down before the whole thing is blown up. Something that made the child deliriously happy the day before is all of a sudden thrown to the floor in screams of disgust. You can never win. As far as I can tell, that’s how it is until they’re 35.

Mandy did a good job of describing the way motherhood stripped her down as well. It’s hard to explain because folks get so defensive. But once you do point out something negative, others open up about all the ways they suffered. All I could think when they finally unleashed was, where was this when I was deciding to have kids? Fortunately, it helps to know you are not alone in these thoughts. Brooke Shields had just released Down Came the Rain when I had my first. I had the baby blues without knowing it and truly thought I was a monster. I will be forever grateful to Brooke for reaching me in the way she did. Mandy speaking up about these feelings in a real and relatable way will speak to a new mom feeling lost and isolated out there. I hope they find comfort in this. You aren’t alone, you aren’t broken, and you are not inadequate. I promise you.

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Tiffani Thiessen doesn’t allow electronics at the dinner table: ‘not even phones’

Yahoo! started a new parenting series called So Mini Ways . Their latest guest was Tiffani Thiessan. Tiffani is still acting but focuses more on her food and lifestyle brand these days. She also landed a hostess bit on MTV’s Deliciousness, which sounds like the perfect hybrid of her two worlds. Tiffani and husband Brady Smith have two kids, Harper, 11, and Holt, six. Tiffani and Yahoo! are partnering with Nutri-Grain on their Getaway from Negotiation sweepstakes, so most of the questions are about bribing kids to eat right. But I actually found Tiffani’s other answers interesting, like the fact that she’s seen as strict because she doesn’t allow her kids to bring electronics to the dinner table.

Her kids would call her strict: My kids will probably say that we’re strict. We’re strict about electronics; they only get a certain amount of time. In the summer, they get it a little bit longer, but it’s not a lot compared to probably a lot of people. We’re “outside” people. We love getting the kids outside and I think it’s important.

We’re definitely strict about just sitting down as a family and eating. That’s really important, especially when it’s the school year. We’re much more strict about every night sitting home and having dinner together as a family, no electronics, not even our phones. We’re a little looser in the summer, because we’re running around a little bit more depending on work schedules and stuff, and the kids have camp. They’ll have a popsicle when they get home because it’s summer. So I feel like we give a little bit. I think we’re, hopefully, a good balance of strict and fun.

Traveling by RV: My husband and I used to do RV trips a lot before we had children. We always said once we had children, we can’t stop doing these, because it’s really a different and fun way to travel with somebody. We were going to do it last year, but the pandemic hit and so we said that we were going to do it this year. We rented an RV and we traveled for 11 days in the RV. It was hard, but even more than hard, it was so much fun. The kids loved it. We went from the Grand Canyon to Colorado, back to Utah and went into the Zion [National Park]. It was such a high. We said we’re going to try to do an RV trip every year, so we’re already planning next year.

Tips for working moms: Breathe. Definitely a lot of [breathing], a lot of patience, for sure. Being a parent, that’s probably number one, patience. Making sure you have a good support system, wherever you can find that, whether it’s friends, family, husband, wife, whatever. I think that’s truly important, too: It takes a village. It really is not just about one person. It really takes a dance of a lot of people to raise children, hopefully in a good manner [laughs].

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My husband and I said the exact same thing about RV trips, although we’ve never actually done it. We always fantasize about taking Route 66 or Lincoln Highway. One day, I swear. I like Tiffani’s advice to working moms because its realistic. Not that we all remember to follow it, but it isn’t telling us to go out and get expensive spa treatments and take mini self-vacations with time we don’t have. Believe it or not, I need the occasional reminder to breathe.

I was a little surprised by the electronics response, though. Not that Tiffani bans them, but that she felt that was being strict. If someone is eating alone, I understand having a book, phone or device out. But I guess I see the point of coming together for a meal as a chance to hang out. My husband is a notorious food photo taker. We’ve restricted him to one shot before we start eating and then he has to use his phone for our dinner music (using his phone ensures he can’t take any more pics). But we aren’t too strict on electronics time limits when not at the table so maybe the kids are sick of them by then. It’s funny, though, I think every family has a summer vs. school year schedule. My summer starts when I don’t have to make breakfast or pack any lunches!

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Meghan Fox cries a lot because her kids ‘grow up so fast’

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Megan Fox has a new movie out called Till Death. It’s a return to horror for Megan and the trailer looks pretty good. While talking about the film with Jenna Bush Hager and Savannah Guthrie, Megan said she found it “hilarious” as well as scary. I saw Ready or Not recently and enjoyed it so if it’s funny like that, I’m in. During her interview on Today, Megan’s three boys, Noah, Journey and Bodhi, kept sneaking across the background. It was really cute because I think they thought they were actually being sly in their maneuvers. Jenna and Savannah found it a riot and kept pointing out every time one would creep behind Megan. As her little sneaks scampered in the background, Megan got emotional about how fast their childhood is going by. She said she wished she could send them back to toddlerdom every once in a while, because they “grow up so fast.”

Megan Fox has been upstaged by her most adorable costars yet.

The Jennifer’s Body actress, 35, gave a surprise glimpse at her home life on Monday when her kids crashed her Today interview, crawling in and out of frame with very little stealth.

“They just woke up. It’s 7:30 here. So, they woke up a few minutes ago, and it just is what it is,” the proud mom told co-hosts Jenna Bush Hager and Savannah Guthrie. “You always have to make it work.”

“I’m in the house that we’re staying in right now, this is the living room area,” Fox explained. “And they all fell asleep on the couch last night, watching a movie. So, they just woke up.”

“I wish there was a way – I’m sure a lot of moms feel this way – where you could, just every once in a while for a day, put them all back at that 2, 3-year-old period,” she said of her kids.

“It’s hard to watch them grow up so quickly. I actually struggle with that a lot, I cry about it all the time, because they grow up so fast,” Fox admitted. “My phone will send me pictures of them when they were younger, and it’s hard to look at it. It’s painful to love something so much. But I have three boys. They are hilarious. They don’t listen to me at all.”

“I also feel like no matter how engaged you are or how hard you were trying at the time, you always look back, and you’re like, ‘I could have been more present’ or ‘I hope I was grateful for this while I was in that moment, ’cause I’ll never get that moment back,’” she continued, pointing to her kids in the background.

[From People]

Megan’s boys are all under 10. I don’t know that I quite feel the need to send mine back to being toddlers, but I do get pangs of nostalgia when I see the computer photos Megan talked about. Mine come on as a screensaver and occasionally one will hit me in just the right way. But my feelings are closer to what she said later, about worrying that I wasn’t present enough when the kids had that exuberance for life. I don’t know much about Megan, but I feel like if she’s examining herself now with the questions of whether she was present enough, she probably was. Most truly absent parents don’t recognize it until the children have moved out, if at all.

Megan answered a few questions about her relationship with Machine Gun Kelly too. She said being a target for the paparazzi wasn’t “preferable” but “so far so good.” Kelly is a pretty dedicated father to his 11-year-old daughter Casie. Again, I don’t know much about them but if they have parenting as a priority, that’s a pretty good commonality for a couple.

Here’s the clip of Megan on Today:

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Mila Kunis and Ashton Kutcher Welcome Second Child!

Congratulations are very much in order for Mila Kunis and Ashton Kutcher.

The beloved couple has welcomed its second child into the world!

Hooray! Huzzah! So totally awesome, right?

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A representative for the actress and actor has confirmed that Kunis gave birth to a boy on November 30, although that is the only detail made known to the public at the moment.

We’ll let you know as soon as a name and/or any measurement intel is release.

The newborn joins two-year old sister Wyatt Isabelle as offspring of Kunis and Kutcher, who have done an admirable job of keeping their first child shielded from the spotlight.

Good luck finding photos of Wyatt anywhere online.

It’s almost as if Kunis and Kutcher care more about their little girl’s privacy and well-being than any attention or money they could earn off her existence.

Weird, right?

It’s safe to assume this will also be the case for the couple’s son.

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But while we don’t know a great deal about their kids, we do know that Kunis and Kutcher positively adore parenthood.

“The one topic of conversation we had even prior to ever having kids was always, ‘How do you raise a child to not be an asshole?’ ” Kunis said in August, adding:

“It’s a matter of teaching them from a very early age that, you know, ‘Mommy and Daddy may have a dollar, but you’re poor.'”

There was also the time Kutcher appeared opposite Ellen DeGeneres and simply gushed over Kunis as a mother. And we mean GUSHED.

“She’s the greatest mom I can’t even… like I go to work every day and I come home and she’s like perfect. And it just seems like everything went amazing,” the actor said two years ago.

“And I know that something probably didn’t go amazing, but she never tells… it’s unbelievable. She’s incredible.”

Kutcher and Kunis have also drawn praise for not hiring a nanny to help child rear, a decision Kutcher explained in that same interview thusly:

“We just want to know our kid,. We want to be the people that know what to do when the baby’s crying to make the baby not cry anymore.

“We want to know, like when she makes a little face or something we want to be emotionally in touch with her and I think the only way to do that is by being the one who’s there.”

Such a simple way of putting it, and yet such a spot-on explanation.

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Kunis and Kutcher got married in July of 2015, months after becoming first-time parents.

They confirmed that they were expecting again in June, with Kutcher spilling the gender beans during a chat this fall with Savanna Guthrie on NBC.

“I’m a little terrified to be honest,” Kutcher admitted to The Today Show host, smiling and confessing: “It’s intensely scary.”

Two kids instead of one? We’re sure it is. That’s, like, twice as many children as they had before. Talk about a challenge!

As for the name of their son?

Go ahead and take a guess.

As for photos of their son?

Do not go ahead and hold your breath awaiting some to be released. That would be a dangerous game to play.

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George Lucas says he sold his ‘Star Wars’ characters to the Disney ‘white slavers’

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George Lucas sat down with Charlie Rose for a wide-ranging interview following the massive success of Star Wars: The Force Awakens. Lucas had very little (to nothing) to do with the success of SWTFA, considering he sold the property lock, stock and barrel to Disney for a relative bargain years ago. But Lucas still has thoughts, feelings and many, many words about it. In the midst of a long-winded answer about why he didn’t have a say in the characters these days, Lucas revealed:

“I sold them to the white slavers that takes these things, and…” Lucas says before laughing and cutting himself short. Lucas says he decided to go his own way and let J.J. Abrams create his own vision. “They wanted to do a retro movie. I don’t like that. Every movie, I work very hard to make them completely different, with different planets, with different spaceships, make it new.”

With massive pop culture footprints and billions of dollars earned, Star Wars and Indiana Jones make for an enviable legacy. But Lucas doesn’t want to be remembered for that; parenthood reigns supreme. “I gave up directing in order to become a dad for 15 years,” he says. “I just ran a company and was an innovator, but it was not doing what I really like to do, which is make movies.” Lucas made the decision after creating Return of the Jedi, and didn’t look back for a decade and a half. “It was one of those things where you don’t expect it to happen, but once I was a dad, it was like a bolt of lightning struck me.”

Though his name is inextricable from that galaxy far, far away, Lucas’ cinematic ambition lay outside of popcorn films. “I fell into popular movies by accident. I always disliked Hollywood theatrical movies. I didn’t want anything to do with them,” he tells Rose. Instead, Lucas says he wanted to make films like the Michigan documentarian Michael Moore. “My ambition then was to … cause trouble, because — again, I grew up in the ’60s, I’m a ’60s kind of guy, I always have been. I grew up in San Francisco Bay Area. That was my environment that I grew up in, and I was perfectly happy to do it.” He and longtime friend Francis Ford Coppola moved to San Francisco to create their own film company before both jumped into the Hollywood machine.

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Josh Duggar once made a really awful incest joke on ’19 Kids & Counting’

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In the wake of the ongoing horror show that is the Duggar family, many sites have been offering more in-depth glimpses of just what the Duggars are all about, their belief systems and what amounts to their cult’s teachings. The Duggars are home-schooled and extremely sheltered about the outside world, especially the women/girls. They’re also very, very, VERY far-right politically, especially about social issues like reproductive choice, LGBTQ issues and, you know, women wearing pants. If you’ve been paying attention to the Duggars even casually before this Josh Duggar story exploded last week, you were probably familiar with the broad strokes of what this cult is all about. But it’s worth discussing some of the stories that have come out in the wake of the scandal.

Jessa Duggar’s father-in-law Michael Seewald is a nutburger too. Michael Seewald penned a lengthy blog post about his daughter-in-law’s brother and the larger scandal – you can read it here. I’m not going to post anything from it because the guy thinks everything is the media’s fault and his arguments fall flat. He also gets some jabs in there about how Josh was raised well and we are all born sinful, and thank God Josh didn’t get his sex education from Planned Parenthood. Seriously. I will give Seewald credit for one thing: he acknowledged the victims of Josh’s crimes and how terrible is must have been for them, which is more than Josh did.

Josh Duggar once made an on-camera incest “joke.” The video resurfaced over the weekend and it’s pretty gross given what we know now.

The police report has been destroyed. The documents pertaining to the 2006 investigation into Josh Duggar’s criminal acts on little girls were destroyed over the weekend, probably. In Touch Weekly filed a FOIA request for the police report, which is how this whole scandal blew up last week. Well… alright. I guess the investigation wasn’t ongoing then.

Gawker did a lengthy exposé on Advanced Training Institute. Go here to read. The Duggars are closely connected to the Advanced Training Institute, which is “a Bible-based homeschooling program run by alleged cult figurehead Bill Gothard.” Gothard also has his own sex scandal, just FYI. The Duggars follow Gothard’s home-schooling program… religiously. The program includes advice for parents on how to deal with a situation involving an older child sexually abusing his younger siblings. That advice mainly boils down to blaming the victims for dressing provocatively and behaving immodestly. Like, it’s a six-year-old’s fault for getting molested because she had evil friends, she was wearing the wrong clothes, etc.

Quiverfull mom compares Josh’s actions to “playing doctor.” Go here to read this total nonsense. I used to play doctor with a neighbor boy. We were the same age (5 years old) and we would practice kissing in my closet. That is completely and utterly different than a 14 year old groping and molesting his 7-year-old sister. And then doing it again to three other sisters and one other little girl. That we know about.

Dan Savage is my spirit animal. As he does with most things, Dan Savage is giving some great analysis on why the Duggar situation is so awful, so hypocritical, and so disturbing. Go here to read.

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Photos courtesy of Josh’s social media.

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