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Ben Affleck is thrilled that J.Lo’s mom lives with them & cooks for them?

Ben Affleck and Guadalupe Rodriguez have always been buds. During Bennifer 1.0, J.Lo’s mom adored Ben and they often went out gambling together. When Ben and Jen got back together in the spring of 2021, one of the first signs that this revival was the real deal was when Ben made a work trip to Las Vegas, and he brought Guadalupe with him (she ended up being in the gambling-app commercial Ben filmed in Vegas). Sources also insisted that Guadalupe was “thrilled” that her daughter and Ben were giving it another shot, and that Ben was and is her favorite of all of J.Lo’s partners. So, funny story: Guadalupe has moved in, and she’s doing the most to ensure that the Bennifer Revival keeps happening.

Three is not a crowd when it comes to Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez. Sources tell Star the singer’s mother, Guadalupe Rodríguez, has moved in with them!

“They love having her around,” says an insider. “She’s always doing special little things to make their house a home.” Turns out the 76-year-old has been a big fan of Ben since Bennifer 1.0.

“Lupe always wanted J.Lo to marry him and was so sorry when they split up the first time,” says the insider, adding that those close to her suspect she prefers Ben to Jennifer’s ex, Alex Rodriguez. “She’d love to see them get married at last.”

To that end, the former school worker has been spoiling the pair by cooking and cleaning up a storm. “She’s making her wonderful Latin dishes like fried pork chops, rice and veggies,” adds the insider. “The kitchen smells so good and homey.” And she’s no pushy monster-in-law type: “She doesn’t hover when they need some alone time!”

[From Star Magazine, print edition, January 10, 2022]

I mean, Ben and Jen aren’t living together – they’re maintaining separate residences, but obviously, they spend a lot of time at each other’s homes. They have been looking at real estate though, so maybe they will cohabitate officially soon enough. My point is that I think it’s more like Guadalupe probably lives with J.Lo, and Ben probably loves having her around and he loves visiting Jen’s house partly because of Guadalupe. Ben really was “the one who got away” for both mother and daughter, huh? It’s sweet.

Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck get cozy during a courtside date at the Lakers game!

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Ben Affleck: In the early years, people saw me a ‘callow frat guy who’s cavalier’

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Ben Affleck’s Bennfer glow-up is no joke. Originally, back in 2002-03, the glow-up was too much, he was too bronzed, too varnished-looking, too Ken doll. But that’s the thing about a revival 18 years later – he’s older and wiser, and the glow-up is more subtle. Suddenly, he doesn’t look like the beefy and Botoxed 40-something chasing his youth. He looks like a man who is nearly 50, who is comfortable in his own skin and happy with his 50-year-old girlfriend. Let’s hope. Ben covers Entertainment Weekly to promote The Tender Bar, and the interview was conducted by Matt Damon. It is quite annoying at times, but Ben does say some very interesting stuff here and there – you can read the full piece here. Some highlights:

On George Clooney: “I think it’s hard to overestimate the degree to which a director’s attitude, openness, comfort, generosity pervades the set and sets a tone. George does that better than I do. And he was enormously respectful of the degree to which I take very seriously my need to be there with my children for my half of the custody. I mean, he bent over backwards. You didn’t have to be there until midnight every night [or] obliterate the rest of your life in order to do this. Because he’s got this spectacular wife, he’s got his children, he’s got a very rich, full life. He’s got to sell coffee— Tequila and coffee. That’s no joke…I’ll tell you what I want to be. I want to be George Clooney selling coffee and tequila. Because that really frees you up to do the movies you want to do.

On his early work: “Starting off, you have these ideas about success. You know, my mother made $28,000 a year. So I would be like, “How could I justifiably say no to this?” Just not understanding the value of turning things down. People talk about your choices and I want to say, “Well, it’s not like I was passing on Scorsese movies.” Like, “No, Marty, I’m good. I’m going to do Surviving Christmas.” Part of our fates are controlled by the opportunities we have in terms of material and directors.

Where Gigli sits with him now: “…The truth about that movie and what it taught me was how much everything around a movie sort of dictates the way people see it. But for being a movie that’s such a famous bomb and a disaster, very few people actually saw the movie. It doesn’t work, by the way. It’s a sort of horse’s head in a cow’s body. And the studio at the time, because I had begun having this relationship with Jennifer Lopez, which was selling a lot of magazines and appeared to generate a lot of enthusiasm, they just predictably latched onto, “They want a romantic comedy. They want the two of them together. More of that!” And it was just like that SNL sketch: “Bad Idea.”

Gigli just never worked: “But even movies like The Sum of All Fears that worked commercially but didn’t have any depth to them, I didn’t do anything particularly interesting in them. [Gigli] didn’t work and we did five weeks of reshoots, which we knew were not gonna work. It was a movie that didn’t work…. Interestingly, I learned more about directing on that movie than anything else because Marty is a brilliant director, really gifted. It’s not like it’s worse than all… there’s a bunch of horrible movies and in terms of losing money, I’ve had five movies — at least! — that have lost more money than Gigli has. It’s just that it became a story in and of itself. The funny name, the Jennifer Lopez romance and overexposure of that, it was kind of a perfect storm.

What he thought his job was in the Bennifer 1.0 years: “I thought my job was to be a cipher. I can see now how people looked at me and thought of this person as some callow frat guy who’s cavalier, or has too much. It engendered a lot of negative feelings in people about me. There’s that aspect of people that I got to see that was sad and hard, it was depressing and really made me question things and feel disappointed and have a lot of self-doubt. But if the reaction to Gigli hadn’t happened, I probably wouldn’t have ultimately decided, “I don’t really have any other avenue but to direct movies,” which has turned out to be the real love of my professional life. So in those ways, it’s a gift. And I did get to meet Jennifer, the relationship with whom has been really meaningful to me in my life.

Being able to sell magazines, but not movie tickets. “I remember feeling like it was the worst of both worlds. I always viewed it that the tax you paid to get the chance to do this work was to sacrifice your private life, and people were going to have license to make sport of you to some degree. And I didn’t go into it blindly. I knew that Sean Penn and Madonna were a tabloid story when I was young. I knew that could happen. Jennifer and I happened to be together at a time where the whole industry of celebrity journalism, if you want to call it that, sort of exploded. But I thought, “S—, this is really not how I had hoped to go, where I’m going to be, what? Famous for being an a–hole or a failure and not able to work?”

[From EW]

The whole piece was pretty interesting and I didn’t even include some of my favorite parts, where Matt and Ben were reminiscing about Robin Williams, and how Ben thought Dazed and Confused was a huge bomb, and his delight in seeing it become a cult classic. Ben even says that the only film on his CV that his kids have even watched is Armageddon and Matt admits that, at the time, he would have said yes to Armageddon too. The stuff about Gigli is getting the most attention, and for the life of me, I don’t understand why Ben cannot bury that ghost. J.Lo doesn’t have to still “wear” Gigli all the years later. I’ve always said/believed that Ben needs to approach the Gigli conversation differently, or just… with fewer words.

Cover & IG courtesy of Entertainment Weekly.

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Jennifer Lopez & Ben Affleck spent Christmas Day together with her kids

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Autumnal Bennifer was stretching into Winter Bennifer and everything seemed to be going smoothly. Then Ben appeared on Howard Stern’s SiriusXM show in December and all hell broke loose. Ben’s quotes about addiction and his marriage to Jen Garner did not land well – he said, in various ways, that he felt trapped in his marriage to Garner, that if he was still with Garner, he would still be drinking, and he definitely left the impression that he blamed his *marriage* for his alcoholism. When Ben tried to clarify the comments, he said it was all “clickbait” (no, he was accurately quoted) and incidentally, he looked and sounded completely baked during that Jimmy Kimmel interview.

The point is that Ben is a chronic self-saboteur and whenever things are going too well for him, historically he begins to self-sabotage. So I was interested to see what the reaction would be from J.Lo. At first, sources claimed that J.Lo was mad about Ben’s mess, then Lopez directly denied those tabloid reports and said she was not mad at Ben at all. Over the holidays, they spent a lot of time together with their kids, and everything seems back on the Bennifer schedule:

Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez celebrated the holidays surrounded by family. The actor, 49, spent time with his children — daughters Violet, 16, and Seraphina, 12, and son Samuel, 9, whom he shares with ex-wife Jennifer Garner — on Christmas Eve in Los Angeles, a source tells PEOPLE.

The following day, the Argo star celebrated Christmas with Lopez, her children and his mother. The singer shares twins Max and Emme, both 13, with ex-husband Marc Anthony.

“It was a pretty quiet holiday for them. They really enjoyed it after a busy fall,” the insider adds.

Affleck and Lopez rekindled their romance in April before going Instagram official in July for the singer’s birthday. A source previously told PEOPLE they “are in it for the long run.”

[From People]

I assume this means Garner had the kids on Christmas Day and so Ben did “Christmas” with the kids on Christmas Eve, then spent Christmas Day with J.Lo, Emme and Max. Where is Marc Anthony in all of this? Was he there too, or was he spending time with some of his other kids? Anyway, at one point, I thought that we would perhaps get a Christmas proposal from Bennifer, but I do think that Ben’s Stern interview set back the schedule a bit. Maybe a Valentine’s Day proposal? Hm.

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Here are photos of Ben and Jen on December 30 in Bel Air.

Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck go to lunch with her kids and dad David at the Bel Air Hotel!

Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck go to lunch with her kids and dad David at the Bel Air Hotel!

Photos courtesy of Instagram, Backgrid.

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Ben Affleck’s Raya hookup talked to tabloids about their months-long relationship


Ben Affleck’s post-split relationship timeline is complicated. Of course he got with the nanny in 2015 either when he was separated from Jennifer Garner or when they were working on reconciling. In August 2018 he had a fling with Playboy playmate Shauna Sexton, which seemed to overlap his relationship with SNL producer Lindsay Shookus. He got back with Lindsay in February, 2019 and they split around April of that year. That summer of 2019 he met a musician named Katie Cherry on Raya. They Facetimed for a while until they met in person that fall. Katie was with Ben when he was photographed looking wasted in October, after he had announced a year of sobriety. She got a little press rollout and everything. This week’s Star, In Touch and Life and Style all have similar quotes from Katie. They’re all owned by the same company, American Media, so it’s possible she only talked to one outlet. Katie claims that Ben only had one drink the night he relapsed and that he moved fast with her. Here’s part of what she told Star.

[Ben Affleck] was surprisingly down to earth. “He’s such a homebody,” Katie tells Star. “His favorite thing to do is sit at home, watch movies and have his chef cook something. I usually don’t date industry people because they’re so full of themselves and so Hollywood,” she adds, “but Ben is the complete opposite.”

He opened up to Katie quickly about his kids and former wife and even J.Lo, 52, whom he’d been engaged to before they called it quits in 2004. “He told me her ass is phenomenal,” reports Katie. “He seemed very enthusiastic about it!”

Things moved swiftly for Ben and Katie. “He wanted something serious,” she shares, revealing he told her he loved her quite early on. “He didn’t talk about marriage, but he did say ‘I love you’ really, really fast,” she says. “And he also asked me to move in with him! I was thinking about moving back to Buffalo and he said, ‘You should just move in with me!’” Katie didn’t say “I love you too,” she admits: “I didn’t want to lie, and I didn’t really see a full on future with Ben.” (He does like to move fast: By March 2020, Ben, who had recently told GMA he wanted a “healthy, stable, loving, committed relationship,” was dating his Deep Water costar Ana de Armas. The couple moved in together that December and split in January 2021.)

Katie and Ben spent most of their time together cozying up at his Pacific Palisades home. “I’m into film scoring so he was always trying to introduce me to his friends in the business, but for the most part we would eat really good food and watch really good movies. He cracks jokes every other minute so you can’t even watch the movie but it was hilarious,” she recalls. Once, he set up a romantic evening for her in his backyard: “It was really nice out so his chef did a candlelit dinner.”

Katie was also there for one of Ben’s lowest points. In October 2019, the rehab vet was photographed looking inebriated at a Halloween party a few months after celebrating one year of sobriety. “My friend asked us to this masquerade party, Billie Eilish was singing there and Ben had one drink,” she recalls, adding. “He had a vodka cranberry and it was almost clear. I’m pretty sure the bartender was like, ‘Oh, it’s Ben Affleck, I’m going to make it really strong,’ and it hit him really fast.” Katie says she asked Ben if he was sure he wanted to partake: “He said ‘Yeah, I’ll just have one.’”

When the story broke the next day, Katie says Ben’s main concern was his kids. “After the slip, the first thing he said was, ‘I’ve got to make sure my kids are OK,’” she remembers. “He wasn’t worried about himself. I felt bad for him.” The actor went straight to Jen’s house to see his children and stayed over for a couple of nights. “I can guarantee Jen was angry, I heard about it from Ben,” says Katie, “but she seems very gracious and level-headed and it seems like she does really care about him.”

Indeed, Katie remembers Jen constantly checking in with her ex. “He said generally that she was a really good mom and he was lucky to have her as their mom,” dishes Katie. “I did notice that she did call him quite a bit,” she adds, “but it seems like they just really love their kids and want to do their best to keep a good relationship for that reason.”

[From Star Magazine, print edition, December 27, 2021]

That sounds really nice to crack jokes, watch movies and eat nice food. That’s like my ideal relationship apart from the fact that it’s Ben. It’s kind of gross that Ben was bragging to Katie about how J.Lo has a phenomenal ass. That seems just like something he would do. As for Jennifer Garner calling Ben a lot, their kids are in activities and I’m sure they have to keep in touch to coordinate schedules. It also doesn’t surprise me to learn that Ben said “I love you” fast and told Katie she should move in with him. Narcissists love bomb and future fake. Katie went on to tell Star that Ben seems like a great match with J.Lo as they’re both family oriented and love their kids. I hope Katie got some cash for the holidays out of this. Also she was smart to keep Ben at arm’s length.

Ben Affleck Plays Poker Wasted at Casino After Halloween Party

— TMZ (@TMZ) October 29, 2019


Ben Affleck enjoys a Christmas shopping trip with the kids and his mom

Photos credit: Backgrid, Star and via Twitter/TMZ

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Jennifer Lopez directly denies being mad at Ben Affleck for his Stern interview

Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez hold hands arriving at Jimmy Kimmel Live!

Here are some photos of Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez last week, as they walked into Jimmy Kimmel’s studio together. That was the interview where Ben looked high as hell as he tried to clean up his Howard Stern mess. His Stern mess was where he talked about how he was “trapped” in his marriage to Jennifer Garner and how he would still be drinking if he was married to her. Reportedly, J.Lo was mad at Ben for the “reckless” and “cavalier” Stern interview. That’s what sources claimed. But J.Lo took a moment to deny that story directly to People Mag:

Jennifer Lopez has Ben Affleck’s back. Despite media reports that Lopez took offense at Affleck’s comments related to his ex-wife, Jennifer Garner, during a recent interview with Howard Stern, the On My Way singer says the rumors are utterly off-base.

“This story is simply not true,” Lopez tells PEOPLE exclusively. “It is not how I feel.”

She adds of Affleck, with whom she rekindled a romantic relationship earlier this year, “I couldn’t have more respect for Ben as a father, a co-parent, and a person.”

Lopez, for one, is fully supportive of Affleck and feels that any negative characterizations — both of him and of the rumors of her being angry at him for the Stern interview — are off the mark. A source close to the couple agrees, and says the pair is “in a really great space and really happy.”

[From People]

Basically, ever since Ben and J.Lo got back together, we’ve all been waiting with bated breath to see what Ben would do to f–k it all up. What we forgot, however, is that J.Lo has an exceptionally high tolerance for bullsh-t. She will stick with a dude even when the red flags are flying. So… while I’m sort of disappointed in J.Lo, this is completely in character for her. She believes this time will be different. I think this will end in sorrow yet again, and when it does, Ben is going to bitch about her to Howard Stern.

Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez couple up for an appearance on Jimmy Kimmel Live!

PS… Ben and J.Lo were out separately yesterday in LA, both doing some Christmas shopping. Stars, they’re just like us! They do their Christmas shopping on the weekend before Christmas too. J.Lo was at Saks with her sister, while Ben took his kids and J.Lo’s kids shopping with his mom. Emme and Seraphina were holding hands like besties, which is adorable.

J.Lo goes on a shopping spree with her sister at SAKS 5th Avenue!

Ben Affleck enjoys a Christmas shopping trip with the kids and his mom

Photos courtesy of Backgrid.

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Page Six: Jennifer Garner has been the one picking Ben Affleck up time & again


In our next podcast, coming out tomorrow morning (subscribe to us, we’re Gossip with Celebitchy), Kaiser and I talk about something we haven’t discussed in much depth yet – that Ben Affleck does not come across as sober in his recent interviews. I watched him on Kimmel and saw clips of his Howard Stern interview. He slurs his words, his eyes are half closed and you can tell he’s on something. It’s very possible he’s simply baked. Recreational marijuana is completely legal in California. If that’s the case Affleck is not at Seth Rogen levels where he can smoke/vape all day and speak clearly and understandably. A key part of his job is to give interviews promoting his work, and he’s doing poorly at that, as shown by the controversy over his quotes to Howard Stern.

While some people have defended Affleck’s quotes to Stern, he really said those things. He said other complimentary things about Garner, to be fair. Of course it was part of a larger conversation but the way he dealt with the fallout was not great. Garner has handled her divorce and Affleck’s ongoing substance issues with so much grace. He cheated on her with their nanny in 2015 and he cheated on her with SNL producer Lindsay Shookus. She still staged an intervention and literally drove him to rehab after he started drinking again in 2018. Garner has been silent about Affleck half-blaming her for his drinking problem. Someone gave quotes to Page Six about how she might feel though, which is understandably pissed.

Now, sources around the actress are furious that Affleck aired his frustrations about their marriage to Howard Stern this week — and blamed their troubles for his alcoholism.

“It’s disgusting,” one industry insider who knows both Affleck and Garner well said of the actor’s comments. “Jen has been the only one picking him up time and time again when he’s done horrible things — fallen off the wagon or worse.

“Jen stood by him because she loves him. This is the mother of his children.”

Another well-placed source told Page Six: “Anyone who knows addict behavior knows how untrue those comments could be for any addict, but particularly Ben. It’s one of the first tenets of AA not to place blame for your disease.”

To Garner’s friends, Affleck’s new comments echo the cringeworthy speech he made when accepting a Best Picture Oscar for directing “Argo” in 2013.

“I want to thank you for working on our marriage for 10 Christmases,” Affleck said at the podium. “It’s good. It is work, but it’s the best kind of work. And there’s no one I’d rather work with!”

[From Page Six]

I’m glad that they brought up Ben’s backhanded compliment to her during his Oscar speech. That was so rude! I think Page Six’s sources are just fellow gossips like us, because we talked about this in the Celebitchy Zoom and came to the same conclusion about Garner. People have so much more sympathy for her now that Ben is sticking his foot in it. Ben is blaming other people and situations for his drinking when he’s the common denominator. Plus Garner helped him so much! She’s probably the reason he got sober, not the other way around. Who is he going to blame for whatever is going on with him now? He blamed J.Lo, for years, for his career slump post-Gigli. He’s spiraling and self-sabotaging again, as is his pattern.

Garner and Affleck are shown together outside on 12/9, before the interview came out. The photos of her with the mug are from 12/15. The car photos are from 2018. Credit: Backgrid




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Jennifer Lopez is ‘pissed’ about Ben Affleck’s ‘reckless & cavalier’ interview

Cast Members attend Amazon Studio's 'The Tender Bar' Los Angeles Film premiere

While I loathe Alex Rodriguez, I bet he’s having a great week, and he’s probably chuckling to himself a lot. A-Rod had a good thing going with Jennifer Lopez, they were J-Rod, and she helped his image a lot, he cheated on her and she stuck with him and then… Mr. Steal-Your-Girl Ben Affleck started writing love letters to J.Lo. Suddenly J-Rod was no more and the Bennifer Revival was upon us. We were told that this time it was different, that J.Lo and Ben were older and more mature and everything was perfect. Then Ben had to sabotage himself in an interview with Howard Stern this week, talking about how he felt trapped in his marriage to Jen Garner and heavily implying that Garner (and his miserable marriage) was the reason why he drank. Apparently, J.Lo is very mad that months of careful PR just went down the drain:

Ben Affleck is getting online backlash for a recent freewheeling interview he did with Howard Stern — but a source tells Page Six that Jennifer Lopez is also upset. While discussing his divorce from Jennifer Garner during an interview on “The Howard Stern Show” on Tuesday, Affleck seemed to pin his struggles with sobriety on his ex.

“Part of why I started drinking was because I was trapped,” the star said. “I was like, ‘I can’t leave because of my kids, but I’m not happy, what do I do?’ And what I did was drank a bottle of Scotch and fell asleep on the couch, which turned out not to be the solution.”

Sources also tell us that Lopez isn’t happy with the chat.

“[Lopez] is pissed,” said our source. “She is getting pulled into this because she is dating him. She doesn’t want to be dragged into this.”

The source added, “She has met Jennifer Garner. She is trying to get to know her and Ben’s kids.” The source said of Affleck, “It’s reckless and cavalier of him.”

But, another told us, “This is simply not true and the focus is on the children.”

[From Page Six]

Yeah, I can see it! Garner has every reason to be pissed, but so does J.Lo. J.Lo was just minding her business, back with “the one who got away,” and now she’s back in a typical Affleck mess. She didn’t have anything to do with his marriage or divorce! “It’s reckless and cavalier of him” – hello, have you met Ben Affleck? Reckless and cavalier is his entire brand.

So, yeah, I do wonder if Winter Bennifer will perhaps be the end of all of this. Perhaps this incident was kind of a wake-up call for J.Lo? We’ll see. So much of this is now wrapped up in the promotion for The Tender Bar, and Ben’s Oscar campaign. And J.Lo wants a date for the premieres of Marry Me early next year. Whew.

Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck get cozy during a courtside date at the Lakers game!

Photos courtesy of Backgrid.