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What are the benefits to Dry January?




January is a natural time for considering our own behavior and what we want to change for the new year. Like Brooke Shields, I shy away from setting firm resolutions. Really it just comes down to a tedious mental game for me, where if I declare a change another part of me will rebel and say “you’re not gonna tell me what to do!” It’s noisy in my head. Instead I try to make gentle suggestions to myself, and convince myself it’s hugely different from making resolutions. (I know I’m ridiculous, I know.) A similar popular new year’s practice is Dry January, wherein you abstain from drinking alcoholic beverages for the duration of the month. People Mag spoke to Dr. Rocco Iannucci, MD — director of the Fernside Residential Treatment Program at McLean Hospital and Psychiatry Instructor at Harvard Medical School — about the benefits of Dry January, both mental and physical.

Your liver will thank you: First and foremost, Dr. Iannucci points out that abstaining from alcohol throughout January is “helpful for your liver.” He adds that abstaining for “relatively short periods of time” can have a positive impact. “People with significant liver inflammation related to alcohol will oftentimes see their markers of inflammation go back to normal within the course of a month, and that’s people who have a significant level of alcohol intake,” he explains. “Alcohol is a toxin to the liver,” Dr. Iannucci continues. “The good news is the liver up to a point has a lot of capacity to heal and so giving it that chance to heal can be really helpful.”

Alcohol disturbs our sleep rhythms: “The thing that I think many don’t realize is that even small amounts of drinking do disturb your sleep… Most people will notice the immediate effects of alcohol,” Dr. Iannucci says, citing the ability to fall asleep earlier as an example. But while this is true for many people, he says alcohol consumption can also cause “morning awakening and fitful sleep… That can happen with half a drink,” he explains. “It doesn’t take much for alcohol to start to disturb our sleep rhythm so that our sleep isn’t as restorative as it would be otherwise.”

The potential for weight loss: “I think we can underestimate the degree to which alcohol adds calories — and they’re ‘empty’ calories, meaning they really don’t have any nutritional value,” he explains of the oftentimes “quickly consumed” beverages. “Especially in the forms of sugary drinks, you don’t really notice how much you’re taking in.” While the amount of weight lost during Dry January differs per person… Dr. Iannucci says that “many people find that they lose weight during the course of a Dry January.” Drinking aside, new activities during Dry January can aid in weight loss, especially if your weekends or weeknights usually revolved around alcohol.

Strength in numbers: And while “stopping alcohol” may cause “younger people or people who are dating” to fear “isolation” during Dry January, Dr. Iannucci says joining forces for the month of abstinence can make things easier. He suggests convincing some friends to participate or finding support online. “People will do that through social media and or through apps to help support Dry January and can give you that sense of being connected a little bit more.”

The attempt is beneficial, whatever the results: Whether people fully committed to Dry January or opted for a Damp January (cutting back on alcohol over the month), Dr. Iannucci says “both” attempts “offer benefits because you make a change in your behavior… People can sometimes see themselves as having failed it,” a mindset he doesn’t view as helpful because the attempt is beneficial alone. “I think it’s really kind of a win-win,” he says. “Whether you are able to not drink the entire month or whether you do sometimes drink in that month, you’re still likely to see some benefits in terms of psychological health and physical health,” Dr. Iannucci explains. “So it’s worth doing… What we don’t want to do is beat ourselves up over trying to do something good.”

[From People]

Full disclosure: I barely drink, so I actually have done a Dry January, completely unwittingly. For me personally, I just substituted Coca Cola (which I’ve been imbibing way too much lately) for all of the merits Dr. Iannucci lists above. The benefits still hold up for soda! And I’ve already failed for a soda-less January! Sorry Dr. Iannucci, I know you said not to use that word. Most of what Dr. Iannucci says here makes sense. It’s stuff we probably know already, but it’s still a helpful boost to see it presented together in a compelling argument. Elsewhere in the interview Dr. Iannucci stresses that it’s important to acknowledge that everyone is different and will therefore have a different Dry January experience. Your relationship to alcohol before trying a Dry January is a big factor, as is, well, pretty much everything else. Which is why Dr. Iannucci also notes that consulting with your doctor first is the safest way to start a Dry January.

Whatever your goals are for January and beyond (I’m intrigued by CB’s article on thinking about doing less), be kind to yourself along the way. Cheers Bitches, I raise my glass of seltzer in toast to you all!

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Alcohol food

Doritos nacho cheese vodka is coming and it’s $65



I enjoy a salted potato chip. And by “a chip” I mean a whole bag. Lately I’ve been into sea salted chips cooked in avocado oil, but I’ve also been known to dabble in salt & pepper flavored, and good old Ruffles. Yum. In all my (many) pleasurable snack times with chips, not once have I ever thought, “Gee, I wish I could enjoy this flavor as an alcoholic beverage.” It appears that someone did have that thought, which is how distillers at Empirical lured Frito-Lay into concocting this new unholy abomination: Doritos Nacho Cheese alcohol. Do we not have enough troubles in this world?

Thanks to Doritos, you can now enjoy the classic Nacho Cheese chip flavor in any alcoholic drink you can imagine. The company is officially teaming up with Empirical to bring fans an exclusive, limited-edition Doritos Nachos Cheese-flavored alcohol.

“Doritos is all about disrupting culture and bringing our fans unexpected, bold experiences,” said Tina Mahal, Senior Vice President of Marketing for Frito-Lay North America, of the venture in a new press release.

Mahal went on, “We’re always pushing our fans to try new things, so we figure it’s time we disrupt the spirits category by offering our iconic nacho cheese flavor in a bottle.”

The process to create the new alcohol reportedly uses real Dorito chips to ensure “the full spectrum of flavors” are included in the spirit. According to the brand’s “Tasting Notes,” the new spirit tastes like “The real thing!… The spirit opens with umami and tangy aromas of nacho cheese, moving to the deeper, corn-forward flavors of the chip to finish on a soft salty note.”

The press release even included a few recipe suggestions for unique drinks called the Double Triangle Margarita, Mary Mary, and Doritos Bangarang.

Food influencer Markie Devo also shared the news on social media, and fans quickly hit up the comments with their reactions to Doritos’ newest product.

Some were not fans of the idea, with messages like “What The Hell” and “Gross. Hard pass,” while others were a bit more enticed, such as someone who wrote, “Whoooooooa.”

“I would drink this neat. ????,” said a different Doritos fan, as another declared, even before trying it,” We need a Cool Ranch version!”

Someone else was interested until they saw the price tag, writing, “I would’ve definitely got it till I saw $65 ???? Come on.”

“My brain is still spinning from this one,” another user quipped.

The Empirical x Doritos® Nacho Cheese Spirit will be available in January for $65 in select markets in New York and California, or it can be ordered online. Pre-orders open on Dec. 13, at doritos.x.empirical.co.

[From Parade]

This is insanity. Even more appalling, I went to Empirical’s website and it’s only available for preorder. The site boasts an origin story for this hideous booze, which boiled down to an employee had some Doritos in his lunch bag and a coworker threw them in the still to see what would happen. So basically, this concoction is brought to you by Bill & Ted. They really are high on themselves too (I was about to say “drank their own Kool Aid,” but feared giving them an idea for their next product). Empirical says they “sculpt a narrative arc of taste and aroma, overlaying the novel and the familiar; becoming sense memories we can share.” I’ll have a sense memory from drinking this, but I’ll refrain from sharing it so as not to gross you out. The listed ingredients are Malted Barley, Belgian Saison Yeast 2, and Doritos Nacho Cheese. It’s $65 for 750ml and you can order it online or find it at select markets. Of course, you could also just buy a Party Size bag of Doritos from Walmart for under $5 and add them to your beer. It couldn’t possibly taste any worse.

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Alcohol Katy Perry Orlando Bloom

Katy Perry and Orlando Bloom made a pact not to drink for three months

I have a beef with Katy Perry and Orlando Bloom. They keep talking about their relationship but then they don’t post new photos on their social or pose together anywhere so I have to keep reusing these same old tired photos from other posts. Work with us people! I still don’t know why they are talking so much about their relationship, or at least Orlando is. Katy’s latest admission at least had some context. While at a cocktail event for American Idol, Katy was noticeably not cocktailing. When asked why, she said she and Orlando were five weeks into a three-month pact of not drinking.

Katy Perry is a woman of her word!

The American Idol judge stopped by a curated cocktail event at New York City’s Mister Paradise on Monday alongside fellow judges Lionel Richie, Luke Bryan and host Ryan Seacrest, but revealed that she would not be partaking for a very special reason.

“I’ve been sober for five weeks today… I’ve been doing a pact with my partner [fiancé Orlando Bloom] and I want to quit,” she said while jokingly pretending to cry.

After Bryan playfully asked if she was caving, she responded, “No, girl! I can’t cave. I made a promise. Three months.”

[From People]

Originally, when I read the quote “… and I want to quit,” I thought Katy meant she wanted to quit drinking. But I see now that probably meant she wanted to quit the pact in that moment. She wanted this story out there so we get to discuss it. (That’s the disclaimer for everyone about to tell me I am making too much of this.) I realize someone was probably going to ask why Katy wasn’t drinking at a cocktail event, so she needed a reason. That in and of itself is unfortunate because we should be able to say ‘I don’t want a drink’ and have it not be an issue. But she owns a non-alcoholic beverage company, which the bar had on hand. She could have just said ‘representing, folks!’ and ordered a mocktail. It’s a great message for those in the public eye to be seen drinking mocktails and other non-alcoholic options while enjoying themselves. But Katy made a point of saying she’s not drinking because of this pact and that the pact had a time limit. Which simply invites questions. Like why only three months? Is it a cleanse thing or a we’re drinking too much thing? There’s of course always the pregnancy speculation with a woman not drinking, and the three month time limit plays into that. Orlando cut down on his drinking after it was implied that it led to relationship issues with Miranda Kerr. It’s possible he’s backslid or maybe he wants his fiancée to join him in cutting down.

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Alcohol Sobriety

Going ‘damp’ instead of dry is about ‘improving your relationship with alcohol’

Do any of you do Dry January? In case someone doesn’t know what that is, it’s a pledge to not drink alcohol for the entire month of January. It’s a good way to jump start New Year’s fitness and financial goals because it means not consuming empty calories or spending a fortune on booze. Apparently, few make it the full 31 days. So there’s a new trend this year: Damp January. Damp January asks folks to cut down on the amount of drinks they consume and incorporate some non-drinking days into their routine. The important part about Damp-ening is that it’s a lifestyle shift, not just a month challenge. Becoming a Damper means reexamining your relationship with alcohol. Here are the ways to Dampen your life:

Reflect on Your Why: Georgia Foster, a world-renowned clinical hypnotherapist and author of Drink Less in 7 Days, recommends tracking any negative emotions that come up for you before you drink. Maybe you’re feeling tired, angry, bored, restless, or lonely.

“Once you’ve noted the negative, you can bring in the positive — specifically, thoughts, feelings, or memories that make you feel good such as love, laughter, or something that makes you feel safe. “Keep bringing emotions that ignite the logical, intuitive you before you drink,” suggests Foster. You’ll find you’re calmer before you drink and you’re able to curb “fast and furious fearful-based drinking.”

Commit to Alcohol-Free Days: If you tend to drink socially throughout the week, Foster encourages committing to several alcohol-free days (AFDs) per week. “It’s a beautiful way to balance weekly drinking — and also good for healthy sober sleep too,” she notes. If you’re a less frequent drinker, maybe you do a certain number of AFDs per month.

Find Alternatives: Dr. Carnahan says switching up where you’re hanging with friends can make a world of a difference. “You may want to choose different environments, like a coffee shop instead of a nightclub or bar or different groups of friends doing something you enjoy — hiking, camping, skiing, cooking, book club, etc. — that involves other activities you find enjoyable besides just drinking alcohol,” she notes.

And if you feel like you need to have a drink in your hand at a party, find a mocktail you like or another alternative (Dr. Carnahan likes San Pellegrino in a martini glass with lime) that makes you feel like you’re still participating in the festivities even if you’re skipping alcohol that day or have reached your limit.

Be Compassionate With Yourself: If you’re struggling to cut back, acknowledge that there may be underlying pain, sadness, or trauma that’s driving your substance use, suggests Dr. Carnahan. “There are healthier ways to deal with pain, but we must be compassionate with ourselves in the process,” she points out, encouraging people who are going damp (or dry) to be gentle with themselves as they’ll feel previously-numbed, painful emotions creep back in.

In times like these, she says you might spend time in nature, play with your pets, connect with friends or loved ones, meditate or engage in another spiritual practice in an effort to get connected and comforted.

“Don’t be too hard on yourself if you fail to keep your commitment,” says Dr. Carnahan. “If you are creating a new habit, it may take an average of many tries to successfully ingrain the new habit into your subconscious.”

[From InStyle via Yahoo!]

I’m having a little fun playing with the name, but I see the value in making moderation trendy. The article starts off by saying the pandemic really messed us up, especially women, when it came to drinking. I know the whole “Wine Mom” thing went from an occasional joke to everywhere during the pandemic. Much of the advice above is solid. It’s true that having a glass of something in your hand really helps in social situations. Not just psychologically for you, but also keeps others from pushing drinks on you. My go-to is always a soda water with lime, but I suggest a highball with ice rather than a martini glass. It lasts longer.

And while giving it a trendy name like Damp January and making challenges like non-drinking days may seem like this is more clever than constructive, I think it’s a good start. Again, the article is coming at this as a reaction to pandemic behavior. During lockdown, most people who weren’t already alcoholics were given a lot of leeway because it was such a difficult time. No one knew how to cope properly. It doesn’t take much to establish a pattern when it comes to drinking. And the best thing to do is break that pattern to avoid dependency. So while this might seem a little too packaged and California Sober for some, I’ll bet this helps a lot of people pull back. Granted, much of the article talks about a subscription-based app called Sunnyside that promotes this Damp approach. But let’s face it, apps work. They have a 14-day free trial so if you’ve been at all concerned with your drinking, you can give it a try. Or, if you are just curious, start with the steps above.

I’m just worried that once we commit to a Damp Lifestyle, someone’s going to come along and suggest we now go for Moist Living. Maybe Dewy Weekday Challenges or Humid Party Nights. These names!

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Matthew Perry says he spent about $9 million getting sober

Matthew Perry’s memoir Friends, Lovers and the Big Terrible Thing comes out next week. The book is a raw look at Matthew’s drug and alcohol addiction and his struggle to get sober. Last week, we learned that the GI perforation that almost killed him was caused by ingesting too many Oxycontin. Matthew also admitted to going to rehab about 15 times. In his interview with The New York Times, he revealed that those rehab stays and all his other efforts to get sober have cost him something to the tune of $9M.

Matthew Perry says in a recent interview with The New York Times that he spent a literal fortune to get sober.

The Friends alum, 53, noted the estimated seven-figure sum he’s shelled out on his path to sobriety in the Sunday interview while promoting the upcoming release of his memoir Friends, Lovers and the Big Terrible Thing.

“I’ve probably spent $9 million or something trying to get sober,” Perry said. The actor also revealed that he recently celebrated 18 months of sobriety, which would indicate he was newly sober for the popular Friends reunion special, which aired in May 2021.

Perry previously opened up to PEOPLE about the new book and his decades-spanning journey to getting off drugs and alcohol, explaining that “everything starts with sobriety.”

“Because if you don’t have sobriety, you’re going to lose everything that you put in front of it, so my sobriety is right up there,” Perry said. “I’m an extremely grateful guy. I’m grateful to be alive, that’s for sure. And that gives me the possibility to do anything.”

[From People]

Not to over-simplify it but that’s a lot of money. Matthew’s vague about the amount, “I’ve probably spent $9 million or something trying to get sober,” but I’ll bet his manager or accountant has given him an idea of what his addiction cost him. A stay at Passages runs between $80,000 – $111,000, so 15 stays there would be close to $2M. Maybe he went out of state or overseas for anonymity. Plus, therapy, legal and medical bills, I’m sure he could get to $9M pretty quickly. It breaks my heart to think of what happens to all the addicts who don’t have Friends money to see it through to get fully sober like Matthew did. But I’m glad Matthew did see it through because lord knows even those with money don’t make it either. And I applaud him for being so honest about all of this. I don’t think it was easy for him to so and he’ll probably receive criticism, but I’m sure he’ll help someone out there as well. Since that’s his goal, it’ll be worth it, I imagine.

Matthew said that in addition to money, he relied heavily on his both lower and capital “f” Friends. He said the famously tight-knit cast rallied around him, propping him up when he needed it. And while they were patient, his issues didn’t go unnoticed. When Matthew talked to Diane Sawyer, he said that Jennifer Aniston was the first Friend to confront him on his problems. But he said that Jennifer was the one who reached out to him the most during his recovery and that’s he’s, “really grateful to her for that.”

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Tom Felton on his third rehab stay: ‘one of the hardest decisions I ever had to make’




Tom Felton, 35, played Draco in Harry Potter, and I’ve never heard a bad word about him. In fact we’ve only gossiped about his relationship/friendship with Emma Watson. They’ve been close friends since they were costars, and it didn’t go further than that. While Tom’s career hasn’t taken off like Emma’s, he’s been working steadily, having moved to LA after Harry Potter. He writes about that in his new memoir, Beyond the Wand, and he also opens up about his alcoholism and three stays in rehab, the first of which was an intervention. In Tom’s interview with CBS News’s Anthony Mason, he talks about how he became convinced to get treatment the first time – by his lawyer who told him that he’d seen many clients die from addiction. I’m quoting Rolling Stone’s summary of his rehab stints below and you can see the interview I mentioned here.

In the book (via Entertainment Tonight), Felton admits he started “drinking to escape a situation,” writing, “I went from being not particularly interested to regularly having a few pints a day before the sun had even gone down, and a shot of whiskey to go with each of them.” He adds that he soon began to drink on set and would show up “unprepared” for work.

Eventually, Felton’s agents, managers, lawyers, and then-girlfriend, Jade Olivia, staged an intervention and convinced Felton to enter rehab (Felton writes that his team threatened to drop him as a client if he didn’t go). He shares a surreal anecdote from the day he arrived at the facility when the nurse checking him in offered to give him a name tag with an alias due to his celebrity.

“If people recognize me from the Harry Potter films, it’ll be because of my face,” Felton writes. “It won’t be because of what’s written on my name tag. You could write ‘Mickey F**king Mouse’ on my chest, and they’re not going to think I’m him.”

Despite the brevity of that stay, Felton says the experience still gave him some clarity. After ending things with Olivia, he decided to check himself into a different facility, calling that program “life-changing” and crediting it with helping him recognize the “state of absolute numbness” he’d been living in. Still, Felton bristled at some of the rules and ultimately got kicked out after being found in another woman’s bedroom.

Though Felton wrote that his life seemed back on track after that, a couple of years later, that aforementioned “numbness” returned. He again sought help but said it was “one of the hardest decisions I ever had to make.”

Felton goes on to admit that he still struggles with mental health issues, but he doesn’t want to keep them tucked away. “I’m no longer shy of putting my hands up and saying: I’m not okay,” he writes. “To this day, I never know which version of myself I’m going to wake up to.”

[From Rolling Stone]

You could tell in his CBS interview that it’s hard for Tom to talk about everything he went through. CBS’s Mason said in the segment after the interview that the book’s section about rehab came as a surprise at the end. It’s possible that Tom didn’t plan on writing about it – Emma Watson convinced him to include it. Emma also wrote an introduction to the book, calling Tom her “soul-mate” and writing that he is “creative, sensitive, and whole-hearted.” Of his addiction, Tom wrote that “alcohol… wasn’t the problem. It was the symptom. The problem was deeper.” Of course alcohol also creates its own problems.

I’ve been sober six years and I recently started going back to meetings because I don’t want to ever think it’s OK for me to drink again. When celebrities talk about it so openly, it helps. I’m glad to see Tom doing well and being so candid about his struggles. Addiction affects so many and as he wrote there’s no shame in seeking help.

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Cheryl Burke, three years sober: ‘I’ve been thinking a lot about drinking again’

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I know Cheryl Burke as a former DWTS professional. I was looking through our archives on her and we haven’t talked about her in about three years, which is just about the length of time she’s been sober. She wasn’t particularly scandalous before that and always came across as a decent person. Cheryl, 37, has been married to actor Matthew Lawrence, 41, since 2019. Matthew is Joey Lawrence’s brother and they met when Joey was on DWTS. Cheryl has a podcast called Pretty Messed Up and a YouTube channel where she vlogs and talks about her life. In a recent video she said that she’s been thinking about drinking again and wanted to tell on herself to hold herself accountable. There’s a history of alcoholism in her family and she doesn’t want to risk it or go back to that life. She hit on a lot of points that rang true to me and I wanted to talk about it. I’m going to use People’s writeup of some of her quotes and the video is below:

Cheryl Burke… said in a YouTube video Tuesday that though she’s been sober for nearly three years, she has been struggling recently with thoughts of drinking again.

“I’m here to confess that lately staying sober has been a little bit of a challenge for me. And recently I’ve been thinking a lot, I have to admit, about drinking again,” she admitted. “So, I decided to hold myself accountable by confessing my anxious feelings.”

She added that she never went through a rehabilitation program when she first decided to become sober, saying: “I basically quit cold turkey, but to say I’ve never looked back would be a lie.”

Recently, there have been multiple “triggers” in her life that have made it harder for her to stay sober, including “something bothering me that I don’t necessarily want to feel or face,” Burke said.

She revealed that she struggled with her sobriety during a vacation in Hawaii with her husband, Matthew Lawrence.

“Us being in Hawaii, just that carefree feeling of being under the sun, my husband may have had a glass of champagne, my senses have come back even stronger,” she said. “So, the smell of it I missed.”

She added that in the past “when I [had] any feelings of doubt, betrayal, uncertainty, those for me [were] red flags…My go-to is booze, is anything that numbs and gets me out of my head.”

“There’s so much chaos going on in my life right now. In the past, everyone always used to say, ‘How do you do it all?’ But I did it all because I was numbing through it all. Now, for the first time, through all the chaos, I’m actually having to feel it and be uncomfortable while I’m feeling it.”

[From People]

I know a lot of people will say she needs to get in a program, but in the video she said she has a therapist she’s seen 2-3 times a week for the last ten years. She said that she’s an introvert and finds the idea of joining a 12 step program overwhelming for that reason. She’s thinking about it and would like to be around more sober people. I think that people need to find what works for them to stay sober. For some it’s AA, for others it’s smart recovery, therapy or a supportive group of friends. Cheryl is in therapy and she’s telling on herself and that’s admirable.

This week I had my five year sobriety anniversary. I don’t always remember the date, but my mom reminded me it was coming up. Overall it doesn’t occur to me to drink that much, but I do find certain things triggering like Cheryl mentioned. I don’t really struggle with the decision to not drink anymore because I was sober for two years in my late 20s and then I drank again and saw where it got me. Also it’s just weird how our society normalizes heavy drinking. Sometimes I see people drinking on television or I see ads for alcohol in my Twitter feed and I have to remind myself how horrible it was. It also helps to be around people who drink but who aren’t alcoholics. Maybe that sounds counter intuitive but when I see people have one or two drinks over the course of an entire night it reminds me that I could never do that.

The concept of alcohol is actually crazy .

Imma drink something that doesn’t taste good.. so I can feel good for a lil bit … only to feel worse later 😂.

— Wale (@Wale) June 25, 2021

Here’s that video. I like how open and honest she is but on a superficial level the music is somewhat annoying.