David Harbour Relationships

David Harbour: I’ve always been drawn to fascinating, intelligent, fierce women


David Harbour is doing the bulk of the promotion for Black Widow now that it’s released, which is an interesting choice for the long-awaited female-fronted film from Marvel. However, I like David so I’m happy when he’s on the promo trail. Black Widow’s opening was pushed back due to the pandemic. Box Office numbers suggest that was a good decision. I haven’t seen it yet. I want to. I’d planned to watch it over the weekend but balked at the $30 streaming cost. I understand why, but for that price, I’ll go see it in a theater. It’s getting decent reviews. David plays Alexei/Red Guardian, who supports Natasha and Yelena (I’m guessing, I don’t actually know the story). His character is married to Rachel Weisz’s Melina. Naturally, comparisons come up about all the impressive women with whom David surrounds himself, including his wife, Lily Allen. David told ET’s Nischelle Turner he’s lucky because he’s “always been drawn to really fascinating, intelligent, fierce women.”

On gaining wait for the role and life in lockdown

I’ve been eating donuts since way before we were locked inside. This has been a tough year for jeans everywhere. For waistlines everywhere.

This year and a half has been so extraordinarily strange. What was life before that?

On the stunts in Black Widow

The stunts are unbelievable in this movie. The guys and girls who do those things are unbelievably talented athletes and dancers, it’s sort of a combination of these skills that I do not possess hardly an ounce of. In general it’s brutal. I’m in my mid 40s. My knees and lower back are not meant to do these things anymore. There are about four guys that make up Red Guardian.

On the new season of Stranger Things

It’s my favorite season. The scripts get bigger, the show gets bigger in a way but it also gets more fun. It’s the heaviest dramatic stuff I ever had to do. We get to see a lot of Hopper at his most vulnerable. We’re going to reveal a lot of backstory points.

He was asked how he lucked out with women on screen and off

I have no idea. I just don’t deserve it. I’ve just always been drawn to really fascinating, intelligent, fierce women. I was very lucky to work with Rachel Weisz who I think is just one of the most talented people out there. Truly one of the greatest actresses of her generation, one of the greatest movie stars of her generation and just a lovely human being but so generous and so fun to work with. Of course my wife, who is an extraordinarily brilliant artist and human being who I really am so lucky to be a partner to and with. I’ve really been really lucky and have had a really nice pandemic in spite of everything.

[From ET via YouTube]

I didn’t realize Rachel and David’s character’s played husband and wife in the movie. I love that pairing. That’s a reason to fork out the streaming cost. Plus, I heard Florence Pugh is great in the film. I kind of want to see it before I know anything, and my spoiler free bubble pops. I think David is being sincere when he said he lucked out both on screen and off. Not in a self-deprecating way, but that he really does value strength in his female counterparts and is attracted to fascinating women. To be able to work alongside and marry someone like that is lucky. I feel the same way. I wish he’d referred to the stuntwomen as something other than “girls,” but that’s a hard habit to break, I realize. At least he acknowledged there were more than just men on set, that’s more than most do.

I’ve said it before, I had no idea what to make of David and Lily when they first hooked up, but I’m convinced they are beautifully matched. He seems to appreciate everything about her and her daughters. They melded together so well, it’s hard to believe they’ve only been married a matter of months. It feels like so much longer. It seems like both Lily and David bring out the best in each other and I’ve always thought that’s when a relationship thrives. And good for David for recognizing his wife’s fierceness. All partners should.




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David Harbour Lily Allen Marriage

David Harbour on how Lily Allen’s daughters inspired him to propose


David Harbour appeared on Jimmy Kimmel Live to promote Stranger Things and the Black Widow movie. I guess Jimmy is back to desk and couch interviews now, things really are returning to how they once were. The first thing Jimmy did was congratulate David on getting married. David and Lily Allen surprised most of us by getting married in Las Vegas last September during the pandemic. They posted some pictures to their social media from their wedding, but beyond that, neither spoke much about any of it. However, on Kimmel, David opened up a bit. He said that he and Lily had actually gotten engaged before lockdown, but it was Lily’s daughters, Ethel and Marnie, who inspired him to make things official. David said he married Lily so her daughters would know what to call him.

David Harbour made it official with Lily Allen due, in part, to some accidental advice from the British singer’s two young children.

The Stranger Things star, 46, appeared on Jimmy Kimmel Live! Tuesday, where he spoke about how Allen’s daughters Marnie Rose, 8, and Ethel Mary, 9, whom she shares with ex Sam Cooper, played a role in the couple’s decision to wed in a low-key Las Vegas ceremony last September amid the coronavirus pandemic.

“We got engaged right before the pandemic. Then the pandemic hit and nothing was happening,” Harbour said of his plans with his partner, 36.

“We were riding around beginning of pandemic — she has two kids, these beautiful daughters, 8 and 9 — and we were riding bikes out in the country trying to figure out what we were gonna do for the next year or however long it was going to take. And the little one was riding along and she was going like, ‘David, dad, David, dad.’ Because the D got her confused,” he recalled. “And the older one got very upset with that, which I understand. She was like, ‘He’s not our dad! He’s not our dad!’ ”

Harbour continued: “And then younger one was like, ‘Well what is he? He’s kind of our dad.’ She’s like, ‘No he’s not, he’s our stepdad.’ And she goes, ‘What is he?’ And she goes, ‘He’s just some guy in our lives!’ ”

According to the Black Widow actor, that conversation confirmed it was time for him to take the next step.

“I was like, ‘I need to marry this woman,’ ” Harbour joked. “Because the emotional fallout … “

[From People]

If you watch the clip on Kimmel, it’s really funny. David is a great storyteller. But I kind of think there’s an element of truth here. David and Lily had a unique rollout to their relationship. It’s become obvious they aren’t doing it for anyone but themselves. Remember when they first took up, they were hanging all over each other in the streets? I really thought that was going to be their brand. But their honeymoon phase matured and we heard very little from them. They didn’t disappear, just kept to themselves mostly. David clearly became involved with Lily’s daughters, that was apparent on their social media, but he was respectful of their father, Sam Cooper. So I think when he heard Marnie call him “some guy in our lives,” it was funny, but he also wanted to prove to them he was in it for the long haul. If that message was more important than the bells and whistles of a big ceremony, why wait? Maybe David saw the chance to prove his dedication to Lily and the girls right then and there. And the wedding looks like a lot of fun. I’m still in love with Lily’s wedding look. I think everyone go the wedding they wanted.

David said both Marnie and Ethel still jokingly call him, “some guy in our lives.” I love it. It’s like a pre-teens way of keeping the new parent in line.



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