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Aubrey O’Day: ‘There’s been a lot of fat photos of Aubrey and I wasn’t even fat’

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I didn’t have thoughts on Aubrey O’Day before, but after this summer I think she’s a sad character. She said she was moving to Bali and then got called out for Photoshopping herself into other people’s photos. Her response at the time was to say it’s because she wants to make sure she has the best photo of the background. Or something. Anyway, she addressed that and more in an exclusive interview with E! News, in which she talked about online critics of her appearance and upcoming new music.

Aubrey O’Day is looking back at a challenging chapter of her life.

In August 2020, The Daily Mail published a series of photos of what the outlet described as an “unrecognizable” O’Day out for a walk with her dogs, resulting in some social media users to accuse the singer of heavily edited her previous Instagram posts to appear thinner. The body-shaming comments prompted O’Day to respond by posting a swimsuit selfie while holding a piece of paper with the time, date and words “this is degrading” written on it.

Now, in an exclusive interview with E! News, O’Day reflected on how online critics called her “obese” and “fat” over the pictures.

While that wasn’t the first time the 38-year-old face criticism over her appearance, she was still hurt by the online response. “My body’s been on the chopping block since I was 17. Those were not the first fat photos,” she shared. “There’s been a lot of fat photos of Aubrey and I wasn’t even fat.”

O’Day added, “I’ll spend the rest of my life trying to heal with how many inaccurate things have been told about me.”

Part of O’Day’s healing journey includes making her “Couple Goals” music video, which she said helped her embrace her body. While she initially wanted to use a body double for the project’s nude scenes, the Danity Kane alum said director Alfredo Flores—who’s worked with the likes of Justin Bieber, Ariana Grande and Selena Gomez—was the one who helped her regain her confidence and quash her self-doubt.

“I felt so good,” O’Day said of the filming process. “I felt so comfortable in my body.”

O’Day is making the uncensored version of the video available on her OnlyFans account. Why?

“It’s offering my body up to belong to people again,” explained O’Day, who said she now has a “different perspective” on the public dialogue about her appearance. “I love the reclaiming of it.”

And that’s why O’Day isn’t too concerned about the recent chatter about how she Photoshops herself into vacation photos. “My Instagram looks the way it does not because I’m scared of my body,” she said, “it’s because when I’m in Bali and I scale a two-hour mountain…I don’t have a f–king caboodle kit, a tripod, my wigs and a whole custom line of clothing to put on.”

Explaining how she prefers to live in the moment, O’Day continued, “I am in Bali. I am here to heal. I am not bringing a camera and desecrating this place as a Photoshop moment for Instagram. I will give you the photo when I’m back.”

She added, “No, it doesn’t make me inauthentic.”

[From E! Online]

Okay, Aubrey’s reason for Photoshopping herself into those photos is still stupid. If you want to live in the moment and not “desecrate this place as a Photoshop moment for Instagram,” perhaps don’t take a picture at all? Or perhaps don’t feel it necessary to include yourself in the photo? No matter what she says, it is inauthentic and a bit silly. I think it’s fine to just take a picture of the beautiful scenery or a perfunctory selfie on the summit looking like a (gasp) normal, sweaty person who just completed a hike. Anyway, I’m glad Aubrey wasn’t Photoshopping because she was scared of her body. I did think that might have been the case and felt bad for thinking that, but glad to hear that it’s not body insecurity and just regular vanity. I do feel bad that she was criticized and mocked for her appearance. I think she’s missing the point a bit though: it shouldn’t just be that she wasn’t fat in the fat photos; we just shouldn’t body-shame people at all. So good for Aubrey that she’s healing and reclaiming her body confidence through nude scenes. If only she could do that without subjecting us to new music.

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Chloë Grace Moretz on memes mocking her body: ‘it’s very hard to overcome’

Chloë Grace Moretz broke on to the scene when she was 12 in 2010’s Kick Ass, even though she’d been working for six years prior to that. We know Hollywood is hard on child actors, as is the public. Unfortunately, Chloë was not sparred from being the butt of the joke and it took its toll on her mental health. In 2016, Chloë was photographed carrying some pizza boxes into her hotel. Because of the angle and her outfit, the most prominent feature in the photo are her gorgeous legs. The internet, being the internet, made a meme of the photo comparing it to the Legs Go All the Way Up Griffin character from the Amish Guy episode of Family Guy. By this point, Chloë was already struggling with body issues and this meme going viral only compounded the problem. It left her with body dysmorphia and self-loathing that took a long time to overcome. Chloë recently spoke about the pain it caused and the fact that when she tried to address it at the time, she was told she should get over it.

“For a long time I was able to be the Chloë that people see and the Chloë that I am in private. Then those two worlds collided and I felt really raw and vulnerable and open,” she said. “And then came the onslaught of horrific memes that started getting sent to me about my body.”

While social media has played a role in the way that celebrities interact with their fans in an authentic way, it also provides an opportunity for people to engage with public figures on their own terms. For Moretz, there’s a standout incident in which a photo that circulated took a hit on her confidence.

“There was one meme that really affected me, of me walking into a hotel with a pizza box in my hand. And this photo got manipulated into a character from Family Guy with the long legs and the short torso, and it was one of the most widespread memes at the time,” she said. “Everyone was making fun of my body and I brought it up with someone and they were like, ‘Oh, shut the f*** up, it’s funny.’ And I just remember sitting there and thinking, my body is being used as a joke and it’s something that I can’t change about who I am, and it is being posted all over Instagram. It was something so benign as walking into a hotel with leftovers. And to this day, when I see that meme, it’s something very hard for me to overcome.”

After the meme incident, it even became the more exciting parts of her job that felt compromised.

“It took a layer of something that I used to enjoy, which was getting dressed up and going to a carpet and taking a photo, and made me super self-conscious. And I think that body dysmorphia— which we all deal with in this world — is extrapolated by the issues of social media,” she explained. “It’s a headf***.”

[From Yahoo Entertainment]

There are interviews from 2016 of Chloë talking about trying to get her mother to sign off on plastic surgery when she was 16. Even before she was given the Family Guy meme, people were calling a teenager “fat” and “masculine” to the point she wanted to alter her appearance. The messages we send young people are gutting. They seem to reach kids no matter how much we try to provide a body positive home environment too. It’s criminal. And what’s worse for people like Chloë who have this worldwide platform, we have no idea what she’s struggling with. I look at her legs in that photo and think how could you see anything but fantastic legs? But I have short, stubby legs that I am quite self-conscious about. We don’t know what Chloë’s insecurities are, maybe that meme tapped into them. Not that it needed to hit a particular hot button, it was mean from the outset.

I felt for Chloë that it took away her enjoyment of dressing up and doing red carpets. People don’t care about robbing others of their joy anymore.

Chloë said she went to therapy. That and using the pandemic to go incognito everywhere freed her up to regroup. Unfortunately, Chloë lost her dad during that time, although not due to Covid. But the whole experience has made her revaluate how she approached her public persona. Now Chloë is working more time off into her schedule so she can get a break from everything else. I hope she gets a break from people criticizing her, too.

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Lili Reinhart struggled with body dysmorphia: ‘every thought was about my weight’

Lili Reinhart talks a lot about body image and mental health. She’s an advocate for body positivity and hits back at the unrealistic expectations of women’s bodies that permeate the media. But, she’s still not immune to negative thoughts about her own body, and in a recent interview Lili again discussed her struggles with body dysmorphia and how she’s been affected by seeing her body change on camera.

Lili Reinhart said she experienced a recent mental health “spiral” from dealing with body dysmorphia while filming the latest season of Riverdale.

The 26-year-old actress has been open about her struggle with body image throughout her career. However, she shared in conversation with Dr. Daniel Amen for his interview series Scan My Brain that she had recently been in a “negative headspace” as she witnessed her figure changing on camera.

“I’m constantly exposed to pictures of myself all the time on social media, on my show, pictures of me on my show, which started when I was 19. So I’m sort of constantly comparing what I look like now to what I looked like when I was 19, a child,” she said. “So I’m comparing my body to my own body, basically, and afraid of the changes that have been happening.”

Reinhart went on to say that she’s been in “a battle” with herself as a result of that comparison to her younger self. “It’s me vs. me. Me from a couple years ago vs. me now and thinking how do I get back to that? How can I look like that again?” she explained.

As she gets older and faces more changes with her body, it becomes more difficult for her to deal with.

“It has been really hard the last couple months, specifically dealing with more noticeable weight gain than I ever have in my life while also being on film while it was happening. So shooting my show [Riverdale] and having that weight gain basically documented on camera, episode by episode, week by week of my life, my weight fluctuation,” she said. “It felt very much like this massive problem, this thing that was taking up truly 90% of my brain capacity, I was barely thinking about anything else. Every thought was about my weight, was about what I was eating, how I could lose weight, how I don’t look how I used to look, how everyone looks around me, how I don’t look like them. All of my thoughts were about my body and it was very overwhelming and a very negative headspace that I was in.”

Reinhart said that although she’s “coming out” of that most difficult time, she continues to deal with negative body image on a regular basis after developing body dysmorphia by the time that she was 13 years old.

[From Yahoo! Entertainment]

Lili makes the point that she is looking at images of her body at 19, when she was still in her teens, and comparing it to her body as it changes as she matures throughout her 20s. Despite being out of puberty, people continue to develop during those years and it’s tough on everyone when your body continues to change and you think it should have stopped at that point. It’s especially tough when you’re confronted with images of yourself every day. Often when people talk about looking back at old images of themselves, they say they wish they knew back then how great they looked. And this is like an extreme version of that where she knows how great she looked and is comparing it to her current reality. It sucks to compare yourself to yourself as opposed to someone else because it’s you, so you feel like it should be attainable again. It sounds like the weight thoughts she was dealing with were tough and it was even tougher to have it immortalized on camera. I’m glad she’s coming out of that difficult time right now and hopefully she feels better on future projects.

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Lili Reinhart criticizes how Kim Kardashian admitted ‘to starving’




Lili Reinhart has been vocal over the years about body image and the unrealistic/unfair exceptions placed on women. She seems to truly emphasize health and feeling good over just aiming for thinness. Lili didn’t go the to Met Gala this year, but she did judge the fashion from home like the rest of us. And she was really bothered by the lengths to which Kim Kardashian went just to fit into Marilyn Monroe’s “Happy Birthday Mr. President” dress. Lili posted on her Instagram story and without naming names spoke out about Kim’s comments and the effect they could have on people.

Lili Reinhart prefers health over haute couture.

The Riverdale actress took to social media the day after the 2022 Met Gala, voicing her strong opinions about the lengths certain stars went to achieve their looks.

“To walk on a red carpet and do an interview where you say how starving you are… because you haven’t eaten carbs in the last month…all to fit in a f–king dress?” she wrote on her Instagram Story on May 3. “So wrong. So f—-d on 100s of levels.”

She continued, “To openly admit to starving yourself for the sake of the Met Gala. When you know very well that millions of young men and women are looking up to you and listening to your every word. The ignorance is other-worldly disgusting.”

Lili, 25, did not call out any celebrities by name, but her self-described “rant” comes one day after Kim Kardashian admitted to Vogue that she lost 16 pounds in just three weeks to prepare for the star-studded event.

In a profile, the SKIMS founder—who walked the red carpet on May 2 in a vintage gown once famously worn by Marilyn Monroe—said she initially couldn’t fit into the Hollywood icon’s dress and decided to slim down in order to wear it.

“It was this or nothing,” Kim told the magazine, adding that she “would wear a sauna suit twice a day, run on the treadmill, completely cut out all sugar and all carbs and just eat the cleanest veggies and protein” in order to lose weight. “I didn’t starve myself, but I was so strict.”

In her series of “rants,” Lili—who attended the Met Gala in 2018, 2019 and 2021—expressed concerns about the effects some stars are sending to impressionable fans.

“Please stop supporting these stupid, harmful celebrities whose entire image revolves around their bodies,” she wrote. “I am not generally an angry person but I swear to god, the toxicity of this industry sometimes really gets to me.”

This isn’t the first time Lili has used her social media platform to address the topic of self-image. Earlier this year, the Chemical Hearts star reiterated to fans on Twitter that everybody has a summer body.

“Reminder to myself, and to all—you don’t need a flat or perfectly toned stomach to wear a crop top,” she wrote on March 22. “These ‘summer body’ trends are toxic. Your body is ready for summer no matter what it looks like. Don’t let it stop you from enjoying anything.”

[From E! News]

Before anyone can say it’s just sour grapes — Lili went to the Met Gala in 2019 in a really pretty dress and also posted Instagram stories complimenting her two Riverdale costars who attended this year. She even tweeted doubling down on her comments. I love that Lili shaded Kim without ever mentioning her name. But it was obviously about Kim — she’s the only one who openly talked about losing weight and cutting carbs to fit into a dress. I’m sure all celebs diet to some extent before the Met, but Kim was definitely bragging about squeezing into a dress that couldn’t be altered just to be able to say that she wore an icon’s actual dress for a few minutes (then changed into a replica). And, does it really even fit if you can’t zip it up? The bragging was a bit for naught.

I think Lili is completely right here. Kim took very extreme measures — the diet is one thing, but two-a-day runs in a sauna suit?! What even is a sauna suit? (I’m now picturing Bradley Cooper’s Silver Linings Playbook character running in the trash bag). Medical professionals have said that losing 1-2 pounds per week is a healthy way to lose weight, so 16 pounds in three weeks is more than double what’s considered healthful. And Kim is already small. I’m her height and in 2020 lost 6 pounds in one week from stress and it was not great. I can’t even imagine forcing myself to do that for three weeks. Also, it’s not like all the weight Kim lost was from diet and exercise only, so she’s promoting a harmful message and being disingenuous under the guise of candor. She doesn’t admit to all her other little nips and tucks and tweaks, so why “admit” to this other than to brag? I’m glad Lili masterfully called her out. (And I also like what Lili said in March about crop tops. I love them and always wonder if I’m too old for them, so I’m going to take her message to include age as well).

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Melanie Lynskey’s Yellowjacket’s costars defended her from body shaming producer

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Melanie Lynskey is currently starring in both Yellowjackets on Showtime and has a supporting role as Leonardo DiCaprio’s wife in Don’t Look Up. Most people response when they see Melanie, no matter what they know her from is, “oh her, I love her!” She’s great in everything. Melanie frequently gets cast as the supportive character to the lead – the sensible best friend, the understanding wife, the sassy sister. I think that’s why I loved her as Rose in Two and A Half Men so much, because she got to play against type. Much of her casting has to do with her girl-next door appearance. In Yellowjackets, she is once again in the role of the supportive friend (only things went sideways, to say the least). One thing that was important to her in the role of Shauna was that she look like an approachable woman. Melanie, who’s admitted to disordered eating in her past, said she wanted to come into the role at her usual size and never have it discussed in any negative way. She also wanted the character to be shown sexual and desirable, like any normal woman would be. And Shauna was shown exactly like that. However, Melanie had a rocky start to filming. She recently told a story about being body shamed by a production member who asked her what she planned to do about her weight after she was cast. But Melanie didn’t have to take it alone, her cast-mates Juliette Lewis, Tawny Cypress and Christina Ricci came to her defense and Melanie was allowed to portray Shauna her own way.

Melanie Lynskey had her Yellowjackets costars on her side when she was allegedly body shamed on set, the actress said.

The 44-year-old Lynskey, who stars on the hit Showtime series, said in an interview with Rolling Stone that a member of the show’s production staff implied that she needed to lose weight.

“They were asking me, ‘What do you plan to do? I’m sure the producers will get you a trainer. They’d love to help you with this,’ ” she said.

After the incident, Lynskey’s costars, Tawny Cypress, Christina Ricci and Juliette Lewis, immediately came to her defense, she said, with Lewis writing a letter to the Yellowjackets producers.

[From People]

Again, not surprising that person felt they had the right to say something. Production teams in Hollywood having been allowed to put people down based appearance for over a century. The one solace I get is that this SOB didn’t anticipate the Yellowjackets coming for them when they opened their stupid mouth. I’m sure Melanie used the experience in her performance, though. She had a lot of experiences to lend to Shauna’s story. In that same Rolling Stone interview she talked about her promo tour on her very first movie, Heavenly Creatures with Kate Winslet. Apparently, she was very much the Shauna to Kate’s Jackie, with Kate getting designer gowns and Melanie having to find dresses at local shops. Kate was sent a ton of scripts and passed the ones that bored her off to Melanie. And the worst was that halfway through the tour, the cretin Harvey Weinstein sent Melanie home. He’d made the call on his own that “nobody wanted to hear from (her).” No wonder Melanie is so [email protected]$$, she’s been fighting back against this bs from the start.

As you may know, but we often forget because they are so low key, Melanie is married to Jason Ritter. Her tweets on Yellowjackets in general have been really funny, but when she includes Jason in them, they’re even better. My favorite, however, was this one. I suppose this could be spoiler-y, if you don’t know anything at all about the show, so I guess spoiler?:

He has asked if we can expect a big Debris episode in Season Two

— Melanie Lynskey (@melanielynskey) January 7, 2022

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Valerie Bertinelli on her weight: ‘There is no magic number’

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It has been an emotional couple of years for Valerie Bertinelli. In October 2020, Valerie lost her ex husband, Eddie Van Halen, to throat cancer. In July of last year, Valerie tearfully took to Instagram to call out a troll for making derogatory comments about her weight. Valerie has always been honest about her struggles with her weight. Valerie said that her shame about her body came from her watching her father treat her mother horribly when her mother would gain weight. Valerie also said that being fat shamed by her fifth grade teacher hurt her self-esteem. In a recent cover with People, Valerie opened up about losing Eddie. Valerie also said that she is staying away from the scale and is no longer obsessing over those pesky ten pounds she’s been determined to lose for 40y ears. Below are a few highlights:

In the two years that followed, the 61-year-old star and Food Network host, who says she often felt “like the most famous dieter in America,” came to realize that tying her self-worth to the scale wasn’t working and never had.

It took losing her first husband, guitar virtuoso Eddie Van Halen, who died on Oct. 6, 2020 of cancer at age 65, to see what truly matters. It’s a story she tells in her new memoir, Enough Already, excerpted exclusively in this week’s PEOPLE.

“The goal is to live in the moment,” she says, “and not according to the scale.”

Over time, her grief led to a deeper wisdom about life’s brevity and the road to happiness.

“There is no magic number that will make me feel good about myself,” says Bertinelli, who learned to find the magic in every day — from a mouth-watering recipe, to listening to her son Wolfgang’s new music, to even just watching cat videos. And always finding gratitude like her role model and one-time Hot in Cleveland costar, Betty White.

“I’m done judging myself,” writes Bertinelli. “I want to be kinder and more accepting of myself.”

Still, it’s an ongoing process, she says: “I have a lot of decades of thinking I have to look a certain way for people to accept me and to like me.”

That thinking began early on. “I watched my father treat my mother badly when she would gain weight,” she recalls. “I had a 5th grade teacher poke my belly and say, ‘You want to keep an eye on that.’ So I learned at a very young age that when you gain weight, you’re not lovable. And what I’m learning is that your body is not what makes you lovable.”

[From People]

I have been a fan of Valerie since her One Day at a Time days. Valerie has always seemed like such a light. I know that Valerie has struggled over the years with her body image and like Ricki Lake I have had a front row seat to her battle. I was really sad when Eddie died in 2020 and Valerie’s tribute to him was beautiful. Despite the sadness of the loss, I am glad that Valerie has been able to use the experience as a catalyst to heal.

I love how Valerie said that she won’t be able to find happiness on the scale. As someone who has been battling with weight the last two decades, those words really hit home with me. Valerie is right, life is short and dwelling on something so insignificant as weight can steal the years away. I hope that Valerie continues to heal and to say no to messaging she received as a child. Living in the moment is a gift and something that I am actively practicing. It takes the anxiety of the future and the pain of the past away. I also hope that Valerie knows no matter what her body looks like, she is and will always be lovable. Anyways, I am hoping that the next few years for Valerie will give her an opportunity to celebrate what she has accomplished and just enjoy her life. Valerie choosing not to hold her happiness hostage by whatever the scale says is a start.

Valerie Bertinelli Says She’s Given Up ‘the Damn Scale’: ‘I’m Done Judging Myself’ https://t.co/hS0yLaqC5e

— People (@people) January 5, 2022

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Jewel: ‘I was called a chubby Rene Zellweger when I came in the scene in the 90s’

Jewel has been an outspoken mental health advocate for years. In 2004 she started the Inspiring Children Foundation, which brings mental health care to children. The last time we covered her she was advocating for reducing the stigma around mental health care. Jewel was feeling herself recently and posted about it on Instagram (I do this often). She wrote that she’s 47 now and has worked hard to love herself as she is despite being called the “chubby Renee Zellweger” earlier in her career. Jewel also clarified that it was not her birthday. Here is the caption on that post, which is above:

I wasn’t sure what getting older would feel like . I was never afraid of it luckily


I’ve loved every year .

But in my business and the world, really , Is not kind to aging women.

I made a promise to myself when I was pretty young to ‘do no harm’ to myself. To try to be kind to myself in a business notoriously shitty about women’s bodies. I was called a chubby Rene Zellweger when I came in the scene in the 90’s. But I wouldn’t let myself be bulimic or anorexic because I felt that was letting bullies win. I had to learn to be healthy my own way and find my way to self love. And that takes time. I never fixed my teeth or my nose because I felt like I wanted to know how to love myself no matter what. And to be thankful for the looks I do have, and not take them for granted just because I wasn’t classically perfect.

So when it came to aging, I knew where I stood on it: take care of myself. Eat well. Drink water. Rest. And bring it on! My skin is changing. Gravity definitely takes its toll 😅. But I’m surprised by how good I feel. How vital. How happy. How healthy. And yeah, I feel sexy. 💃🏽

So to any young women reading this: be kind to yourself. Enjoy the hell out of your life. Sleep with who you want, because you want to. Not because you need to feel validated. Eat what you want because you want to- not because your afraid of how it will look on you. Your worth lies in your wisdom and your joy. Don’t be bullied out of enjoying your own life! Feel the sensuous joy of being alive. And absorb every single bit of pleasure out of this life- your worth it!

[From Instagram]

I didn’t follow Jewel at the height of her career but I loved her music. I always called her the 90s folk music heroine because her music brought folk music back to mainstream pop. The more I learn about Jewel, the more impressed I am by her. Jewel took her experiences as a pubic figure and created space for others less fortunate than she is.

It really irks me that people feel they can comment on women’s bodies. I went back to look at Jewel from the 90s and I am appalled that they called her a chubby Renee Zellweger. She was far from chubby. Jewel looks amazing in the photo that she posted and, like Meghan Markle, the woman should live in red. It would have been understandable if Jewel wanted to straighten her teeth or do a bit of work but honestly she doesn’t need it. Jewel looks amazing because she is a good person, loves herself and minds her own business.

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